hs782356 Posted September 10, 2017 Share Posted September 10, 2017 A few months ago I was in an on/off long distance relationship with this guy. I have known him for 8.5 years but not always been in a relationship. Everything was great, he was awesome and amazing but we started to have problems and he used to flip whenever we used to have fights or argue, he would not talk to me, neither try to solve the problems and he used to say mean stuff to me, all insensitive things he could. I tried to solve the problems but he acted as if he does not care it made me sad and I cried a lot but because I always loved him so we managed to get back together too but because of the problems and his attitude I sometimes could not reciprocate as I just wanted him to apologize I felt really bad because of his sudden flip of emotions and insensitive behaviour. He is like I am human I made a mistake and I should ignore it but he never actually ignored my mistake. Moreover, he had a habit of not communicating his discomfort or problems until he was ready to burst. I will not lie I made my share of mistakes and might even hurt him too, so one day he says I can't love you anymore and I don't think I can in future too, it broke my heart and I begged him to love me back. I know I should not do that. but I felt helpless. I was there for him even tried to solve the problems but he is like never picked up my calls when we were in an argument and he would just ignore me and once he okay, he comes back but not apologize and expect I should be okay. I love him dearly though and I helplessly sometimes try to talk to him but he is really rude and disrespects my feelings. But then he is like I don't love you and might never now but I am sexually attracted to you so we can be sexually together. And he even talks nicely about that stuff too. He says he'll be there for me too and be my friend. I feel if I try to be sexual with him and we start talking he might realize our problem was communication which he did not try to help me with. It was 8.5 years, it has to have some value to him and I feel if we really talk as normally as we could then it can remind him of all the good things we share. Yes, I want him because I love him and as a human I still feel he will love me back, if he loved me once then he can though he claims he can never love me again but then he claimed he can never leave me because he loves me way too much. I don't know what should I do. How to feel fine because I panic a lot that I will lose him and I will be alone and he might never want to talk to me. I panic a lot I don't know if I should be sexually there for him and not expect him to love me back but hope that one day he has a change of heart. I need help. Link to comment
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