Lily1211 Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 So some background I split with my ex bf when I found out he was cheating on me a few months ago. I was devastated at the time. He was the first and only man I've ever been in love with ( I'm 30 btw). Since then I dated a few different people and met my new bf. He is a very nice man. Extremely different from the type that I generally date. Our beliefs are very different. He is devoutly religious, into meditation, doesn't curse, believes in traditional gender roles(woman stays home with kids, man work...total bs) and thinks therapy is necessary for self awareness. I am polar opposite in that I am not at all religious (still not convinced god exists), I curse like a sailor, have multiple vices- vaping and pre marital sex for example, and probably the biggest I am fiercely independent. I have a very successful /respectable career and am accustomed to being in control. I also have 2 children from a previous relationship and know a woman can do it all. We butt heads a lot but, and because I am younger and in his eyes a "super hottie" (I'm not he's just sweet lol) he is always making comments that I want to be or want to be with other men. Writing this doesn't paint thing in a favorable light. He is a truly wonderful person and he inspires me to be better. We are able to have incredible deep discussions and we have so much fun together. We're both big dorks. The biggest problem I keep having is even though I really care for him and am starting to love him, I cannot get my toxic cheating ex out of my head. I hate him for what he did but I realized when I met him he was the love of my life. Do I just accepted that I'll forever love a head? Is it fair to my new bf or any guy I date? Link to comment
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