girl00 Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 One of my oldest friends fathers just passed away very unexpecedly. I was on the road when it happened and so I wasnt able to go to the memorial service and felt like I wasnt as there for her as I could have been. I called her as soon as I heard and we talked and it was just so devastating. We dont hang out as much anymore, not like when we were best friends in middle school but we always stay close and I see her around town all the time. Anyways, I am going to see her for breakfast and Im worried Ill be stupid or something. Im a very open and blunt person, very understanding an easy to talk to. She knows I love her so much and feel so much for her and her family. I have experienced a lot of death but I couldnt IMAGINE loosing a father, Im amazed she is even texting and going out with me right now, she even offered to drive. I just dont want to say something lame or because im sort of against the whole im "sorry for your loss" thing, i dont want to undermine what happened. i dont know if she wants to laugh, i dont want her to come and have me look at her all sad, but i dont want to be all like OMG HEY GIRL!.. its just super awful and Im not sure how to be besides myself dialed down a little. i feel so much for her and her family but i dont want her to feel annoyed i feel bad for them? if any of this makes sense. maybe this is ridiculous or offensive but i even imagined me ordering food at the counter and laughing with the register lady over something dumb and her sitting at the table watching and hating me for being okay. i guess im trying to imagine how id feel. its just so unfair this happened. thanks for any advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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