amanda230 Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 I have known my coworker for over a year now and we still work together. We have flirted on and off all this time but it was never really serious. I know he hasn't dated anyone seriously in a long time and he isn't looking to date like that and definitely not at work as he once had a fling with a coworker here a few years ago and it was awkward. A few months ago he started flirting more often, so much so that our coworker teased us. I told him i dont sleep around when he asked me what would i say if a good looking guy asked me out and he replied that he knows im not like that. After a few days i asked him if he ever flirted with me because he we never say anything out loud. He answered by asking me if i ever did. I said i know he did but why as it makes no sense. He didnt answer directly but just said that however he talks, he always does it in a manner so no one gets suspicious or that it doesn't become awkward at work between everyone. How he behaves is just for our eyes. So he avoided the actual question. He uses a different tone of voice when speaking to me like a soft, flirty, teasing tone. I thought it was bad but one of the workers said that he likes me as a person and finds my reactions funny so he talks like that only with me. After our talk, he doesn't flirt for a long time and basically avoids me. A week ago he started flirting again. I felt him caress my finger when he passed me a box but i might be imagining it. We talked about this girl who tries to sleep with him and he said he doesn't like overconfident girls that thinks everyone will ask them out. I asked what would he have done if i had asked him out a long time ago and he said he doesn't want to do anything like that at work. We weren't seriously talking so i let it go and stopped pursuing him. I thought he would stop the flirting after that but he kept talking to me in that teasing tone and it seemed like we kept bumping into each other alot. He asked me to pass him one of the notes and when I turned around, he held my shoulders so i dont bump into him. He wasn't standing so close and he could've waited. Sometimes we would catch each others eye and i would look away casually. Another time I turned around and he stopped right infront of me and didn't move back. I was almost out of the balance to stop myself from colliding into him and had to put my hands up in case I slipped. Is he playing with my feelings? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 He is. He is a waste of time. He likes the attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 Agree with Holly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 yep add my name to the agreeing list Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginaloribic Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 I'm sorry OP, but I too agree with everyone else. This guy sounds like a complete tool. He knows exactly what he is doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quark Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 Yep. Not to jump on the bandwagon, but if you were so bold as to ask him how he would feel if you asked him out a while ago and he straight up shot it down I would stop wasting your time thinking about him. Go pursue other options because I feel like he is never going to be serious about anything more than light flirtation at work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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