EmmaLouAnn Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 Okay so me and him were together a year and half ago and after a year we've decided to give it another go after us both being in new relationship and they failed. We both admitted to having feelings for each other and wanting to try again so we are and it's going really we, I go to his we chill and talk to the pictures go for walks we call each other everyday and text each other. My problem is I was in his house the other day and noticed his iPad on the side was going off quite a lot and I know I shouldn't have and I wish I hadn't but I checked it and noticed he was talking to another girl a few weeks before we started seeing in a very sexual way.. it made my heart drop. I found the girl he was talking too on Facebook and she likes a hell of a lot of stuff he puts on Facebook even down to pictures he's put up months ago which is a little strange to me. I didn't know what to do so I just pretend that I didn't see it and carried on. Lately it's been going round in my mind and playing g with my head I've spoke to a friend and she said that we're not together and it shouldn't really bother me but it does... He is making such a big effort with me he's buying me sweet little gifts taking me or phoning me in the middle of the day just to see how I am etc and it makes me feel so special and I don't know if I'm over thinking or not... I wanna ask him where we are going and if he knows that we are exclusive and I want him to be honest about everything but I can't really say.. so who's this girl then because he will know I seen it and never said anything. I don't know if I'm overthinking or not but I just need some advice on what to do I'm so happy with how we are but this is really playing on my mind and I'm not sure what to do we've both worked so hard to be where we are right now and I love him so much and want this to work more than anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustysuit Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 If all the signs are there you're not overthinking at all. It's normal to feel insecure when stuff like this happens. What sets you apart is how you deal with it. Accept this as an insecurity you're having and be frank with him. Be open and vulnerable with him, because if you bottle it up, it will come out in a very bad manner in the worst times i.e. when you're having a big fight, you are sure to mention this and then he'll be like "why didn't you say anything before?" and you'll be like "bla bla bla, I didn't want you to worry, bla bla bla." If it's bothering you right now, it will bother you in the future. Just say the ipad was getting blasted with notifications and you did a mistake by looking at it, but you saw this girl and you can't help it but feel bad/sad/insecure about it. Relationships are about being honest, trust and vulnerable with your partner. It isn't all about love and everything is easy and roses and perfumes. Don't really know if this is good advice, but that is what I would do. Own up to your mistakes, your insecurities and act on them. You probably have nothing to worry about, but this thing will eat at you if you let it. Also, be prepared if he's mad for looking at his stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 We both admitted to having feelings for each other and wanting to try again so we are and it's going really we, I go to his we chill and talk to the pictures go for walks we call each other everyday and text each other. Did you guys talk of exclusivity? Are you saying he was sexting with this girl while he's suppose to be "trying again" with you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmmaLouAnn Posted September 8, 2017 Author Share Posted September 8, 2017 He suggested us seeing eachother and we said it would be exclusive! He was securing this girl a week before we started seeing eachother but my own mind is playing trick against me making me think he is still doing it!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 He suggested us seeing eachother and we said it would be exclusive! He was securing this girl a week before we started seeing eachother but my own mind is playing trick against me making me think he is still doing it!! Forgive me for not quite being clear on what's happened. You say his Ipad was going off. Was it going off because they were texting one another or was it going off just because of normal texts from people in general? Also, you say you're exclusive but then you say this: I've spoke to a friend and she said that we're not together and it shouldn't really bother me but it does... Anyway, unless you can dismiss it from your mind on your own, the only thing left to do is to talk to him about how you're feeling. Has she been liking his FB posts recently or was this in the past? I wanna ask him where we are going and if he knows that we are exclusive If you talk of nothing else at the very least make sure you're both on the same page as far as status goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starlight925 Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 It sounds to me that this girl was texting him prior to you two getting back together and discussing exclusivity? If that's the case, then yes, it was prior to your exclusive relationship, and it's fair game. I know it stings that he was still texting with someone so soon. I think the thing to know now is, is he still texting with, or keeping in contact with, anyone else? Or has he fully closed all of those doors? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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