Ccole15 Posted September 7, 2017 Share Posted September 7, 2017 My ex girlfriend of four years broke up with me around five months ago. It is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. We were going into our softmore year of college when it happened. What makes it even harder is that we have been absolute best friends throughout the course of our relationship. We connected instantly and have been happy ever since. Two days before the breakup it was her brothers wedding and we got into an argument at the rehearsal dinner. I have a history of an explosive temper and have been working really hard on it and she supported me. This was my first burst of anger in five months. I ended up leaving the dinner and that night she texted me and told me she missed me at dinner and wanted me at the wedding. At the wedding we were fine, we danced and everything. The next day she was acting distant so I asked if everything was ok. She told me she was having doubts, but wanted to go on as normal to work it out. I panicked and told her maybe we should just end it now if it's going to end eventually. She stopped talking to me for two days. I kept apologizing and even went to her house to talk but she wouldn't let me in. So the next day she told me we needed to talk and picked me up, and took me to a park where she broke up with me. I kept my cool during the breakup, but emotions were still high in our conversation. I could tell it was hard for her just like it was for me. She said she doesn't see a future with me anymore and that this is permanent. She has never been good at handling conflict so she used to hold a lot of pain in and she said now that she is coming out of her shell that she didn't want to go through my anger again. It has been five months and I attempted no contact on several occasions. I have texted her a couple times throughout just asking how she was and she would talk to me and tell me what's going on and thank me for supporting her. I have tried to work on myself by hanging out with friends posting fun pictures nothing mean or depressing. She has not removed me as a friend or removed any of our pictures. I talked to her mom yesterday and she told me that my ex is not talking to any guys at all and is not even interested. She got quite on social media and only posts things about family when she does. I ended up drunk texted her about a month go and told her I was sorry and asked if we could give it another chance ever. She sent me a long text saying how hard this has been but she still doesn't want to get back together and thinks we should limit contact and she said it's not fair to me or her to answer the question as to if we would get back together. I am a couple weeks into a brand new no contact and this time I'm not messing up. I just want advice as to what I should be doing to get her back and how to get her to reach out to me because she has not initiated contact at all. She is just staying busy with school, new job, and she's a youth pastor now. I miss her a lot and really want another chance. Please help! Link to comment
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