Confused about what's going on with girlfriend

[cam0908]

We've been dating for 2 months and everything was going great. It felt like we had known each other for years. Well last week things kinda changed. We sat down friday and she said that she was feeling overwhelmed and smothered. Which I can see we have seen a lot of each other but she was always wanting me to come over. But she also said that she wanted to work things out which I really want to with her. But ever since then she has become kinda distant but not at the same time. She text me every morning but when I ask her something about how her day is or what she is up to that night she just ignores it. I don't know what to do I want to give her space but I also want to have an idea of what's happening. Y'alls thoughts?

[Jeetsun]

Disengage a little bit. If she doesn't respond to your messages, then don't text her until she texts you. Play it by ear and assess if her level of communication matches what you're looking for, if it doesn't then let it/her go.

[Giblesp]

Tell her to look you up when she would like to connect, and then give her the gift of missing you. Unless she wants to meet you on the same level, dont reach out to her for any reason.

 

There is a chance there is another man in the equation unfortunately. So look after yourself first and take a step back.

[cam0908]

That's kinda what I've been doing if she didn't respond I just let it go. But one thing she said today kinda made me think. I asked her when her interview was and her response was "why that just kinda rubbed me wrong.

[cam0908]

She's told me on 3 different occasions she wanted to work things out just needs some time. She also said I was very affectionate and she wasn't use to it so it was gonna take a while to get use to that slowly

[PICCOLLO]

Limit the texting. Never initiate texting.

I'd suggest organising to see her no more than twice a week for a while. Organise your dates when she initiates texting.

 

Sometimes space is the best thing you can give a person. It allows them to miss you and grows anticipation.

 

Big conversations and generic 'how was your day' interactions via text don't build attraction like 'in person'meets and time apart does.

[cam0908]

I tried to get her to go do dinner or something on my days off which were yesterday today and tomorrow. But I asked and that question got ignored. I just tried to do something those days because I work shift work and work days this coming weekend and have Monday off then go nights Tuesday Wednesday, Thursday.

[fabact]

You need to let her know that you need a little more direct communication and that when you ask her to do something and she ignores you it's only indicative that she does not want to be with you. You may alienate her and she may back away altogether it seems like she has already a little bit.. but you have to let people know how you want to be treated. Ignoring texts is lame. She already gave you a strong indication after two months that it's a little too much for her so if I were you I would just back off. She seems unavailable. I really can't stand that word but I know it all too well because that was me for a long time. Ask yourself if you really want to chase someone who is unavailable. It gets tiring.

[awdj]

Give her space by not texting her and move on. Women will not ignore a man they want to see. Same thing happened to me recently.

 

They will go hot to cold in a day and you will never know why. It's not a big deal just keep dating.