Expectations

[Claire6789]

Ok, so I have been with my boyfriend for five months, we spend almost every day together. He is at my house every night. I basically have given him all of my world. He is part of my daughter's life, and has met all of my friends. I have completely made him a top priority in my life. So much so, that I cancel plans with friends to be home for him, and he still keeps me waiting, always late showing up. At first, I was over the moon that someone would want to be around me and my daughter as much as he did; however, when he leaves, we are not a part of his world. It's almost as if, we are a secret. He doesn't want anything on social media linking us together. Never wants to go out. In five months, we may have been out of the house together a handful of times. If we do go out, we don't hold hands or kiss. He walks in front of me, as if I'm embarrassing. More than not he comes over after 9:30 at night. He has a teenaged daughter and I'm not allowed to meet her, nor does she know about me and him being in a relationship. His phone is constantly on silent and face down.

 

I feel kind of used and taken advantage of. I have told him numerous times how much it hurts me and nothing changes. We fight constantly now because I'm so frustrated and hurt. Sometimes, I really want to end it because I think once someone better comes along he will leave; however, it hurts to walk away.

If anyone has any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

Am I being an for wanting him to share his world as much as I am sharing mine?

[melancholy123]

You KIND of feel used? You ARE being used and taken advantage of. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if this guy has a wife or a girlfriend somewhere that you know nothing about. You need to dump his sorry azz and get yourself sorted out and learn why you put up with this.

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm sure this would hurt less if you set your standards at higher level. On another note, I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but at a mere 5 months in, he has no business being involved in her life, nor should he be spending the night, (imo).

 

The bottom line is he's keeping you a secret for a reason, yet more importantly, why are you willing to settle for so little?

[Claire6789]

I'm sure this would hurt less if you set your standards at higher level. On another note, I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but at a mere 5 months in, he has no business being involved in her life, nor should he be spending the night, (imo).

 

The bottom line is he's keeping you a secret for a reason, yet more importantly, why are you willing to settle for so little?

 

Thank you and lesson learned about my daughter. I feel so horribly.

[Claire6789]

You KIND of feel used? You ARE being used and taken advantage of. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if this guy has a wife or a girlfriend somewhere that you know nothing about. You need to dump his sorry azz and get yourself sorted out and learn why you put up with this.

 

Thank you and yes, I'm ending it. It hurts so incredibly much to be used because I would never do that to someone. Oh well I just have to get through the hurt.