I need some advice

[Sunildrosario]

Hi,

There is this girl that I am totally in love with and I am crazy for her. I told her how I felt and she told me she doesn't have any feelings despite everything we have been through as friends. But the surprising part was she couldn't maintain eye contact with me and she looked away for the most part. She also cited that she didn't want to get hurt again. But I'm confused because she never avoided eye contact like that before. When I brought it up, she looked at me for less than 5 seconds, told me she didn't have feelings for me and then turned her head away again. What does this mean? Does she have feelings for me but she is hiding it because she doesn't want to get hurt? I am so confused. Any help would be much appreciated.

[RedDress]

Well, it's kind of an awkward conversation. I presume you've been friends for a while since you said "after all we've been through". Who wants to hurt their friend's feelings?? It's awkward and uncomfortable.

 

Either way, you must take people at their word. It's definitely not cool to decide that you know better than she does what she wants.

 

You asked, she said no. If she changes her mind, she knows where to find you and how you feel.

[Sunildrosario]

Even I would have believed her word. But we have done a lot of couple like stuff. We would spend hours talking on phone, texting each other. When we go out she would hold my hand and some times she would even feed me when the restaurant is empty. But when I tried to feed her some food in another restaurant which was crowded she refused the gesture. Could it just be that she is not sure of her feelings yet? Basically she behaves like a gf one day and like a friend the next day.

[Sunildrosario]

Well, it's kind of an awkward conversation. I presume you've been friends for a while since you said "after all we've been through". Who wants to hurt their friend's feelings?? It's awkward and uncomfortable.

 

Either way, you must take people at their word. It's definitely not cool to decide that you know better than she does what she wants.

 

You asked, she said no. If she changes her mind, she knows where to find you and how you feel.

 

Even I would have believed her word. But we have done a lot of couple like stuff. We would spend hours talking on phone, texting each other. When we go out she would hold my hand and some times she would even feed me when the restaurant is empty. But when I tried to feed her some food in another restaurant which was crowded she refused the gesture. Could it just be that she is not sure of her feelings yet? Basically she behaves like a gf one day and like a friend the next day.

[Moesta86]

She might have been avoiding eye contact because now she is aware of your feelings and didn't want to face the hurt/disappointment you would have been going through when she said this to you. I would take her word for it and not talk about it again as the last thing you don't want to do is force the feelings on her. You may end up losing her as a friend.

All the best to you!

[PICCOLLO]

Avoiding eye contact means embarassment. Thats a tricky topic you brought up. She likely felt awkward because she didnt want to upset a friend but didnt want to lead you on.

 

Time to give her space. If she seeks you out, then maybe theres a chance. Never be friends with someone you have feelings for unless its a fleeting crush.