Learningagain Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 My GF of 2 years broke up with me this past saturday, she stated that she did not feel the same way anymore. I accepted it, did not cry, plead or ask for her to change her mind or anything. We had a very caring hour or so talking and her mainly crying and i left and went to my place. Now, i went into this relationship with the mindset that i dont want a future or children and that it was a one day at a time thing, she went along, but one day at a time turned into 2 years and i now realize i love this girl. We had agreed throughout this time that we must remain good friends after this ends as i am best friends with my previous ex and its a very valuable relationship. Now, this girl (new Ex) is a very honest, loyal, caring human being and genuinely cares about me and it seems that it is very important for her not to lose me. for a few days after the break-up i went into radio silence, she would text i would respond with very short responses, but i decided that i need to inform her that i will need to process these changes and go into No contact mode. I had the chat with her last night about doing this and it was very heavy on her i could clearly see, i was actually very surprised with the state she was in. It seemed she was struggling more than i have been, this was very different from my previous experiences with break ups. to a degree i felt sorry for her! I know all there is to know about how to move on from a break up, learned so much from the previous ones, and im doing solid progress even though its very early on, im very happy with this and it is great to see the hard work from my past is paying off. Much of it learned on this forum!! But here is the catch!!! When informing her of my no contact decision and what were the rules of engagement and so on she mentioned how its very tough for her but the relationship didnt make sense because i didnt want any future with her, this was a twist i didnt expect, i thought she had zero romantic feelings left, but this future block being potentially a "reason" is new. Why is this intriguing? because i now know that i love this girl and would not have a problem having a future together (very late realization i know!) so i told her that i would not have a problem having a future with her, IF this was the real reason behind her loss of feelings. I did not want to have a "take me back conversation" at all, they dont work i know, so i tried to make it sound as little needy as possible. i told her that if she changed her mind she can get in touch and we will see where i am at. Here is the question in my head, she is very down and needs support! im doing good, so could no contact harm the chances of us getting back together if this "no future block" turns out to be the main source of the feeling's problem???? wouldnt it be better for me to stay in the picture?? I will only do it if i know for certain i can handle it. Thanks so much for reading this far!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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