PrussianGuy911 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 First of all i have been reading numerous threads here in past couple of weeks and they really helped me move on from break up, Thank you all for that I will try to keeps things short, i met this amazing girl almost 4 years ago (dec 2013) and we started dating from Mar 2014 . She was my first girlfriend, i never dated anyone before coz i think, casually dating someone is like using them and playing with their emotions(i know its weird). She knew that and she was the one who persuade me into relationship. Things were great throughout relationship, we had our ups and downs ,supported each other in problems,sadness, studies, I had taken many big life changing decisions taking her into consideration.We used to talk about our future a lot like about Children - how they will look and what we should name them, Our House,Car and many more things.Basically we had accepted each other as life partners and i was happiest person without worrying about future. She goes to vacation with her family every year in July for 14 days to some kind of camp, she went this year too. first 3-4 days were normal, we talked on Skype for couple of hours every night, things started changing later, she would be replying late to my msgs ( several hours ) and she would be too tired to Skype from all the activities in camp and wont talk much on phone much either. she comes back and says she is confused about us and admits that she is falling for some other guy ( who is younger than her ) and also admits that she sees no future with him but she wants to see how it feels to be with him... we broke up.She ended our 3 and half year relationship for something she knew has no future... i didn't beg, cry, got angry or anything, i was just sad as hell and she didn't seem too upset or bothered by our break up, she seemed casual and normal by the way she was talking. i just said " i hope you are making good life decision for yourself", she wanted to remain friends , i said No politely and I went NC from 9th Aug. Totally heartbroken , didn't sleep for 2 days. just layed on bed thinking about what happened, finally stopped feeling sorry for myself decided it was time to move on and i was till 2 days ago, she called me from some app which does those proxy calls at night around 1 am and i immediately knew it was her and i didn't pick up and put my phone on silent and went back to sleep and in morning i saw there were 9 missed calls and in afternoon she again called 5 times so i got worried and installed watspp again and these were her msgs. 1st msg at 1:29AM "I am really really really need someone to talk to right now... I am sorry for what i did to you, i really really am. " 2nd msg at 2:15 AM "You know the guy i was with ? Apparently he doesn't like me in that way anymore.... Randomly. He still wants wants to friends so you never know what happens... But i never felt this abd about anything.I know you dont wanna hear from me but i really need someone to talk with.I just threw away my whole future because of him.I betrayed the person i love above anything because of him... You." 3rd Msg at 3:30AM "If you would be nice enough to get over our differences and just talk to me for a day so i can at least feel some happiness. I am really sorry for hurting you the way i did and i mean it." My reply to all those msgs (she called again for 3 more times after she saw i have seen msgs) "I feel sorry for you... give yourself time, time heals everything" she again replied immediately "I don't think so... it's not like i will ever see him again. He wants to stay "friends" because he doesn't know if he wants to date me." i replied " Talking to me wont help you. Only advice i can give is, get away from him and me and give yourself time to heal" Blocked her other number too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Schockobaerin Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 You know, now Im very depressed because my ex bf dumped me with the "not you its me"/"i love you but im not in love with you" clichee, 2 and half weeks ago, I was very lovable, understanding, the "perfect gf", but anyway was used as a rebound pretty doormat, and now feel ugly, depressed and useless.. BUT seeing your post give me some happiness that there is some justice above all. After how your exgf treated you, she was so arrogant to come back to you like that? She is dumb as a rock, if I would be her, I would eat a big portion of humble pie and not act like this.. Good to hear you are feeling better and how you responded to her, indeed karma is a biatch.. That gives me hope to overcome my sadness, thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Ugh, what a selfish and immature little girl she is. New guy breaks her heart so she comes crying to you, the guy she just dumped? She is completely arrogant and rude, not to mention very, very dense. You were kind to respond to her at all. My choice of words would have been slightly different! Anyway, good for you for blocking her. It's not your problem her new lover-boy doesn't want to be with her. She has to put on her Big Girl pants and deal with it. Don't let her come crawling back either, because she will simply use you for comfort until the next shiny new toy catches her eye. The right girl for you wouldn't leave for you another guy. And she certainly wouldn't conduct herself the way your ex has. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 I don't believe in karma. It stands to reason people will rarely respect or trust someone who monkeybranches. And that's on top of whatever else went wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thealchemist Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Stay strong and just stay NC. She is just using you. Don't let her. She is trying to help herself and doesn't care what damage she might do to you. I wouldn't even respond at all. Even if knowing it happened makes you feel happy, any communication, even gloating, will make it harder for you in the end. Sounds like you are doing well in recovering, jist keep it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterjister Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 hahaha this is just awesome. hang on tho.. you installed whatsapp and messages came through from when you didnt have whatsapp? i didn't think that was possible like if you block someone and they send a message it doesnt then get delivered if you unblock them.. what gives? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 You know, now Im very depressed because my ex bf dumped me with the "not you its me"/"i love you but im not in love with you" clichee, 2 and half weeks ago, I was very lovable, understanding, the "perfect gf", but anyway was used as a rebound pretty doormat, and now feel ugly, depressed and useless.. BUT seeing your post give me some happiness that there is some justice above all. After how your exgf treated you, she was so arrogant to come back to you like that? She is dumb as a rock, if I would be her, I would eat a big portion of humble pie and not act like this.. Good to hear you are feeling better and how you responded to her, indeed karma is a biatch.. That gives me hope to overcome my sadness, thank you i am sorry to hear what happened with you, but don't ever let yourself feel down because of others, you need to distance yourself from him and then only you will see the real person beyond your ex bf. In mean time get busy, read some books, movies, binge watching shows you like or set yourself a goal new goals in life and pursue them instead of feeling sad, life is too short for being sad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 Ugh, what a selfish and immature little girl she is. New guy breaks her heart so she comes crying to you, the guy she just dumped? She is completely arrogant and rude, not to mention very, very dense. You were kind to respond to her at all. My choice of words would have been slightly different! Anyway, good for you for blocking her. It's not your problem her new lover-boy doesn't want to be with her. She has to put on her Big Girl pants and deal with it. Don't let her come crawling back either, because she will simply use you for comfort until the next shiny new toy catches her eye. The right girl for you wouldn't leave for you another guy. And she certainly wouldn't conduct herself the way your ex has. I am not planning on getting back with her, i would never feel same about her in my life again, its just when you spend almost 4 years of your life with someone you care about their well being, i just hope she makes wise choices in future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 Stay strong and just stay NC. She is just using you. Don't let her. She is trying to help herself and doesn't care what damage she might do to you. I wouldn't even respond at all. Even if knowing it happened makes you feel happy, any communication, even gloating, will make it harder for you in the end. Sounds like you are doing well in recovering, jist keep it up. it didn't make me feel happy at all, in fact i kinda felt sad things went like that with her, to be honest whatever anger i had for her kinda went away and its replaced with pity... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 30, 2017 Author Share Posted August 30, 2017 hahaha this is just awesome. hang on tho.. you installed whatsapp and messages came through from when you didnt have whatsapp? i didn't think that was possible like if you block someone and they send a message it doesnt then get delivered if you unblock them.. what gives? i blocked her current number ( one which she was using from past 2 years now), she msged me from her old number which i thought she had deactivated long time ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seanryder Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 I'm proud of you man...you seem to be handling this with dignity and composure....good for you. Keep it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 I am not planning on getting back with her, i would never feel same about her in my life again, its just when you spend almost 4 years of your life with someone you care about their well being, i just hope she makes wise choices in future. Of course. I was with someone who betrayed me after almost 8 years together, so I get what you mean. But you have to keep in mind, she didn't care much about your well-being at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thealchemist Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 it didn't make me feel happy at all, in fact i kinda felt sad things went like that with her, to be honest whatever anger i had for her kinda went away and its replaced with pity... Don't let her guilt you into talking either. That is just going to give her an open door to start emotionally munipulate you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggy123 Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Wow she has some nerve. She is just using you as you're her comfort blanket while she gets over that guy. You did the right thing with how you responded. If she keeps bothering you just don't answer. You will probably get pulled into being used by her but not getting back together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ParisPaulette Posted August 30, 2017 Share Posted August 30, 2017 Ugh, the unmitigated gall of someone who dumps you then wants you to comfort them when they get dumped by the next guy. Good on you for blocking her. I'm sorry, but she really showed her true colors there and you don't deserve that. Heal and move on as you advised her to do and don't let her back into your life. The utter gall and lack of empathy is astounding. I'm sorry you're dealing with that. Being left is bad enough, but left then they want you to play therapist/crying shoulder for their own choices? Too bad they don't assign community service for that kind of thing. She'd do well to spend a few months picking up trash at the side of the road while ruminating on what she's done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladesofsteel Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 Bravo dude. Let her feel her own selfishness in full force. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustysuit Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 Dude, that's some vindication right there and she rightly got what she deserved. But, we all make mistakes. Don't you think you'll regret not giving the relationship another chance? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 31, 2017 Author Share Posted August 31, 2017 Don't let her guilt you into talking either. That is just going to give her an open door to start emotionally munipulate you. I haven't talked to her since.but I am kinda feeling bad since I know her,she doesn't take bad news properly , she would cry all night even for small things. Wonder where here emotional side went when she broke up with me with straight face... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thealchemist Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 I haven't talked to her since.but I am kinda feeling bad since I know her,she doesn't take bad news properly , she would cry all night even for small things. Wonder where here emotional side went when she broke up with me with straight face... It isn't your job to worry about that anymore. She chose that. I'm just saying that even worrying about that is dangerious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 31, 2017 Author Share Posted August 31, 2017 Dude, that's some vindication right there and she rightly got what she deserved. But, we all make mistakes. Don't you think you'll regret not giving the relationship another chance? She never said she wants to get back,she wants me to comfort her while she waits for that guy to make up his mind about dating her or not , would you be around for something like that ? Let alone give her second chance ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thealchemist Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 Bravo dude. Let her feel her own selfishness in full force. It has nothing to do with her in my opinion. It only has to do with what is best for him. Caring about her isn't wasn't best for him. She is just using him and him worrying about her in any capacity is bad. Positive or negative. OP, she is just using you. Don't worry about her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrussianGuy911 Posted August 31, 2017 Author Share Posted August 31, 2017 It isn't your job to worry about that anymore. She chose that. I'm just saying that even worrying about that is dangerious. You are right, I need to look forward. This thing is already messing up my mind , I don't wanna go back into sad chain of thoughts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thealchemist Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 You are right, I need to look forward. This thing is already messing up my mind , I don't wanna go back into sad chain of thoughts Just when you were starting to get over her she does this and fs with your head. Just ignore it or you will get caught back up into it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted August 31, 2017 Share Posted August 31, 2017 You are right, I need to look forward. This thing is already messing up my mind , I don't wanna go back into sad chain of thoughts Yeah, then she'll mysteriously disappear if that guy changes his mind or when she meets someone new. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 I haven't talked to her since.but I am kinda feeling bad since I know her,she doesn't take bad news properly , she would cry all night even for small things. Wonder where here emotional side went when she broke up with me with straight face... And where was her support for you when she hurt you? She needs to grow up. A mark of maturity is learning to deal with the consequences of your own choices. She's sad and cries all night? Boo hoo, life is tough when you screw it it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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