thejazzynator Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 For those that want to stay up to date please check out link above. This as a continuation. So I like a girl who is going through a tough time. She was raped a little over a year ago and then got into a polyamorous relationship with her best friend and her best friends husband where she was used for sex and devoid of affection. My ex was pretty abusive as well so we both saw that we could give each other the affection and love we both desire and hit if off quickly. I talked to her like she was my best friend. Told her everything. However, she decided not to meet up for the first time stating she was going through a lot emotionally. At first like many others I thought she was just bluffing and didn't like me. Until something told me to just hit her up and check on her. Things have gotten bad enough that she had to have a friend come stay with her because she was so messed up emotionally and was incredibly grateful that someone she had yet to meet in person off okcupid cared about what she was going through. I told her that it didn't change how much i liked her because she couldn't help what happened to her and she thanked me. Told her she was beautiful this morning and to have a good day and she thanked me. My friend told me it's cool to be nice but not to pity her which I agree. I don't wanna seem like she needs pity when I just want to make her smile. She has been pretty proactive about refocusing on her life. I told her I didn't wanna text her everyday because I didn't wanna put pressure on her and wanted to be respectful. She said she was judt coping and seems appreciative that I care so much. Now, it's hard for me to focus on any other girl. I feel like I'm betraying my feelings by doing so. I don't know why, people say move on because she may be too damaged to withstand anything right now. Which is true and I'm not looking for right now. I just, I want her to be happy. I like bringing her comfort, she makes me feel appreciated. That means more to me than anything even if we never get together. There's a kind and considerate vibe between us. She's really a sweet girl. Like I don't feel like a fool for holding back on other girls and before this happened I was telling chics who asked to talk to me I was talking to someone I really like. I haven't told her this because I don't wanna put pressure on her this is just me and what I don't mind doing. If we don't end up together girls will be there you know? Not to sound egocentric but as I've gotten older I realize they'll be there. I used to go from relationship to relationship thinking if I didn't I would never find anybody. Now looking back, it's like I was worried but kept getting what I was worried about not getting and didn't realize it. If that makes any sense. I guess I feel like she's worth it... idk. Have any of you been in similar situations? I wanna hit her up and tell her I can't stop thinking about her. Not because I feel sorry for her but because I like her but again zi don't wanna be selfish and let my feelings supersede her turmoil right now. Or maybe she'll appreciate it? Idk. Link to comment
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