Top 5 ways to approach a women

[Kyng]

I would like to hear from a women perspective but guys you can drop some lines on your best approaches. I'm looking for unique cases. I will start with my list below.

 

1. Approach a women in front of her girlfriends

2. Situations when you're inside a car pull over and get out

3. If she's in a cafe sit down introduce yourself and start a date

4. In a clothes store show her an outfit and say this will look nice on you

5. Pull up in a new car and just smile

[abitbroken]

I would like to hear from a women perspective but guys you can drop some lines on your best approaches. I'm looking for unique cases. I will start with my list below.

 

1. Approach a women in front of her girlfriends

2. Situations when you're inside a car pull over and get out

3. If she's in a cafe sit down introduce yourself and start a date

4. In a clothes store show her an outfit and say this will look nice on you

5. Pull up in a new car and just smile

 

Women are not conquests or targets.

1. In what context?

2. She will think you are going to carjack her.

3. You can say hello but sitting down "to start a date" is terribly presumptious.

4. Creepy. You will only have success with women who have loose boundaries, are 16 years old or need constant validation. A decent woman has her guard up.

5. Weird

 

 

The right way:

1) Be polite to everyone you run into.

2) join meetup groups so you are exposed to meeting more women and they are able to get to know you in a relaxed context to gradually develop an impression of you and develop a acquaintance relationship. How do you know she is someone you want to actually date?

3) Let your friends/coworkers know you are looking in case they know someone they can make an introduction to.

[Kyng]

I can respect that. Just wanted some different way to approach women but you made some good points.

[RedDress]

If you want a good laugh - and a bit of a perspective on dating from a woman's perspective - Google Louis Ck - on dating - men number one threat to women. It's pretty hilarious (and kinda true).

 

I (and most women I know) are usually pretty sensitive to security. In that light, some of your proposed approaches are kinda creepy (no offense)

 

1) This is fine depending on context and if the goal is to meet people (ie in a bar)

2) No. Totally scary. I would think you were trying to abduct me and my fingers would start dialing 911.

3) You can sit at the table next to me and see if I'm even open to conversation - but not at my table. That's creepy.

4) Totally creepy!! What are you doing in a woman's clothing store?? Shopping for your girlfriend and hitting on me? (Terrible). Shopping for your mom? (Ack!) And why are you staring at me like that??

5) I am not a gold digger. What exactly are you hoping will happen here?

 

The best way to approach women, IMO, is the same way that you would approach a new potential friend (male or female). By having similar interests (dancing, going to clubs), by partaking in similar activities (volunteering, doing sports, etc), by talking about the subject at hand. From that very natural place, charm will get you everywhere.

 

Most of my friends are married. No one I know met their person by a random walk-up on the street.

[Capricorn3]

I would like to hear from a women perspective but guys you can drop some lines on your best approaches. I'm looking for unique cases. I will start with my list below.

 

1. Approach a women in front of her girlfriends

2. Situations when you're inside a car pull over and get out

3. If she's in a cafe sit down introduce yourself and start a date

4. In a clothes store show her an outfit and say this will look nice on you

5. Pull up in a new car and just smile

 

Every one of those ideas would freak me out - some just creepy and some just weird. I wouldn't respond positively to any of them.

[Snny]

I can respect that. Just wanted some different way to approach women but you made some good points.

Being dramatic and sudden can you get you killed. I know several ladies with carry permits or have some type of weapon (pepper spray to taser) they would pull out. Also, #2 is highly illegal to impersonate law enforcement and pull people over.

[thealchemist]

I would like to chime in with a guy's viewpoint.

 

1. Depending on the situation can be great. If a girl is with her friends it adds a multiplier to anything. If you can give her friends a positive image of you it is very helpful. If you give them a negative your are out of luck. But always remember, she is with her girlfriends having a fun night out. Try to be as unobtrusive as possible. And very polite. I would approach during a lull in their festivities and just go in and be very direct and to the point. Don't bug them.

 

2. Dude, NO.

 

3. I would try to just chill somewhere and make eye contact. If she gives a accepting vibe then "get caught" (don't stare like a creeper) a few times looking at her. If she is smiling back or some other positive receptive way then I might try to go up and ask if the seat is taken.

 

4. You can only really pull that off if you have a sister as a wing woman. Otherwise it is pretty creepy.

 

5. Makes you look like a tool.

 

If I may go beyond your actual question...

 

All these approaches rely heavily on physical attraction. If you aren't attractive none of these will work. None are based on hobbies or similarities or anything meaningful. You will have better luck and potential if you try to base your approach around something more. Like going dancing, hiking, canoeing/kayaking, cooking classes. Then you can just start a convo with them about the activity.

[Batya33]

How to approach -be in as many situations as possible where you don't need to "approach" -where you're supposed to talk, mingle, get to know each other - examples -volunteer work (especially working on a project like backstage at a theater, or anything where there's some interaction/collaboration between people), a group that goes on a hike, or takes a class that requires interaction -maybe art, photography, salsa dancing ,cooking, wine tasting, a book club, etc.