Long Distance Break Up -- Should I Drive To My Ex?

[SGHB]

I could really use a reality check or advice on my current situation. I recently posted on the forum about my break up that happened with my girlfriend of 2 years. We've been broken up almost two weeks now. We live far from each other (6 hour drive). I want to drive to visit her but I don't know if that seems "creepy".

 

She will not answer any of my phone calls and only text messages me. I play this scenario out in my head that by driving to her she will see how much I want to fix things and will talk to me. I broke her trust by text messaging another woman. Little did I know the woman would screen shot each and every text and send to my girlfriend. I was texting with this other woman for about 10-14 days -- give or take.

 

It seems like my girlfriend still loves me and wants to somehow forgive me but she is overtaken by anger and sadness right now. I hear from her daily via text but most messages are negative and full of pain. I've sent her lavish gifts, dozens and dozens of roses, other gifts etc. Still no telephone call.

 

I've considered "no contact" in order to give her space and "miss me" but I keep thinking the more I beg and try that maybe she sees how badly I want to be with her.

 

Would really appreciate advice on whether or not driving to her apartment and knocking on the door would be a good or bad move.

[pippy longstocking]

Bad move ...you have begged pleaded and but the flower business out of action ...NOW stop it all .......if she contacts you it is because she has forgiven you , if she doesn't then you have your answer . Pushing yourself on her more will push her away .

[Tomthumb88]

I agree.. she has heard your plea, let time do its thing. If I were you I'd try to start thinking she probably wasn't coming back and start rebuilding myself and life. Try to be a better man for her or the next woman

[reinventmyself]

I've had guys show up on my doorstep and it freaks me out.

But that's me. You probably don't want to take that chance.

It could make a bad situation worse.

[Tomthumb88]

No contact will keep you from making any more mistakes and you can revisit any plans when your thinking is less clouded by emotions

[Doc Blaze]

Even if you didnt text this other female i would tell you not to go..

 

 

you need to let her be. she may never forgive you. but being pushy and driving to her would not be a good thing.

 

she is full of all types of emotions right now probably.

[SGHB]

Thank you for the feedback. I have a feeling I have been pushing her away from the beginning by begging and seeming so needy. I guess I watch too many movies where the guy chases the girl when he makes a mistake. I wanted my efforts to show how much I care for her and how badly I regret making a mistake. I was holding on to the fact that she didn't "block" me and keeps texting me -- false hope I guess since she still won't speak to me.

 

Going to heed the advice and not just show up unannounced. I now think no contact may be my only hope at allowing her space and time to heal and miss me. Is it too late for that?

[SGHB]

Even if you didnt text this other female i would tell you not to go.

 

I made a HUGE mistake by thinking I could text a woman for attention and somehow it wasn't cheating. I feel bad that I betrayed and hurt the woman I love. At first I denied it which made things worse but I just didn't want to hurt her over a handful of text messages. I never met this woman or talked to her on the phone -- all texts. She unfortunately took screen shots of each and every text convo and sent them to my girlfriend.

[Doc Blaze]

I made a HUGE mistake by thinking I could text a woman for attention and somehow it wasn't cheating. I feel bad that I betrayed and hurt the woman I love. At first I denied it which made things worse but I just didn't want to hurt her over a handful of text messages. I never met this woman or talked to her on the phone -- all texts. She unfortunately took screen shots of each and every text convo and sent them to my girlfriend.

 

thats emotional cheating even if it isnt , it still isnt something a person in a relationship should be doing.

 

 

you reap what you sow...

 

 

now you have to see if she will ever give you another chance.