likeahawk Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 I was with this girl for 3 months. Short but quite serious. A couple of times we discussed trying for kids after 1 year together. About 8 days ago we had a massive argument. In the heat of the moment I said I can't be with her anymore, she's too argumentative. She accepted it and stormed off. 30 minutes later when I calmed down, realised I made a mistake and I texted her and apologised and said I didn't mean it. That is the first time we have split up. However she was very angry. I tried to get us back together and calm her down but nothing worked. The next day we texted a few times and she told me how sick she is of her job and misses home (she's from abroad). I gave some advice about her job trying to be helpful and it made her mad and she started ignoring me. I sent about 5 texts in the evening trying to talk but with no answer. But at night she replies ok let's speak tomorrow. So the next day I text, no reply. I wait a few hours send a second text, still no reply. Something feels off so I message her flat mate and she tells me my ex has gone back home to visit her family because she's upset and also misses them! I texted my ex saying her flatmate has told me you've gone back home and I wished her the best, apologised for what went wrong and said it's a shame things went bad between us so quickly. That was 5 days ago! She never replied! And is still at her home country at the moment. I have been in strict no contact since. What are my best steps to reconcile with her? Stay in strict no contact? Message her in a couple of days when she comes back to my country? What's weird is she was *super* into me. We texted 24/7. And she would often get very angry if I took more than a couple of hours to respond to her texts, and we spent all our time together. And so suddenly she has cut me off and gone back home! I don't know how she is finding it so easy! I know before me she was with her ex for 4 years and he lives in her home country and he was actively trying to get her back whilst we were together He was almost like a stalker with his behaviour despite her being very clear. I'm paranoid maybe she has gone back to give things with him another go. They had a very volatile relationship and split up constantly according to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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