My Boyfriend's Ex Girlfriend

[katiesmang]

To begin I should start with some background information. My current boyfriend and I have been together now for roughly around two and a half years. In October, we broke up for a few months. It was a clean break, and both of us went our separate ways for the time begin. During this time apart, he got a new girlfriend whom he dated for 6 months. He ended up calling it off because he realized he wasn't in love her and that it wasn't fair for him to keep her around, thinking that he did. His ex girlfriend and I share a lot of the same friends, so during their break up her and I grew somewhat close. She came to me for advice on the recent break up and I tried my best to help. She is a very kind girl with one of the best hearts I've come across.

 

Skip ahead a few months, him and I crossed paths again. Overtime we began to become closer, it was obvious neither of us really got over eachother, and eventually realized that we were worth giving another shot at. However, I don't want to talk about my current relationship with him, moreso, his ex girlfriend.

 

I feel so guilty about how badly I must've hurt her. She thought I was her friend and then I got back together with her ex. Through friends, I know she hasn't taken it very well and that it really upset her. I wish she wasn't stuck in the middle of it because she is so kind. But neither of us can help what we feel for eachother. Apart of me wants to apologize to her and try to explain it, but then again what good would an apology do? What could I even say? She still follows me on all social media and I know she sees posts of us together, and I don't know if I should make her unfollow me or if she just doesn't care that much. She hasn't said anything to me directly about it. I don't know what to do. I feel guilty about what happened and I should. But I am in love with this guy and stupid happy in our relationship together. I don't know how to deal with the guilt, my heart hurts for her. Any advice on how to better handle this situation would be appreciated. Thank you in advance.

[DanZee]

Well, have you seen her since you restarted your relationship with you ex? Maybe you should call her and talk with her about this rather than guessing from the fact she hasn't unfriended you, etc. You can explain it to her and if she understands, you might go on a girl's night out to try to rebuild your relationship with her.

[figureitout23]

Your heart hurts for her? The last thing an ex wants from the current girlfriend is pity. Alleviating your guilt isn't for her benefit, leave it alone. You did what you did and whats done is done.