Conley85 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 so I started dated someone 6 years younger then me and I have had 3 long term relationships and he has had one. He is the sweetest guy out of the 3 idiots b4 him. His intentions are positive but I feel his is "sugar coating" things all the time. Like to him everythings perfect while im very honest about my feelings, he is very general about his. He just says I love you, and your my everything, and im his world, but he never says anything particular or goes deeper than just the surface of his feelings. Which, we both know he has a problem bottling up his feelings. We have talked about seeing a therapist so he can express how he feels and help him learn to express. Does that seem like the best route? As far as our sex life, I am 31 he is 26, I used to not care about sex at all, but now it seems I have to have it or I get mad, which leads me into me next issue, he often rejects me when I "make a move". He says that he is just not into having sex or oral, but what about pleasing me? And I've never met a man who turned down getting oral sex in the morning before work! Am I crazy? or is there real science behind his thinking? There's just so many issues and questions gone unanswered because obviously he cant explain his feelings and most time dont even know how to put his feelings into words or how to explain them. I am literally going crazy because I dont know why he isnt honest about how he feels, he loves cuddling, kissing, rubbing, but doesnt prefer sex, and when I confront him about maybe he dont want to have sex cause of my vagina not pleasing him, or whatever issues, but his rejection makes my self esteem drop very badly. I need answers!!!!!!! p.s. one of the things i mentioned that really bothers me is me thinking he is not being honest about his feelings cause he sugar coats everything. another thing to take into account is his level of thinking is on the surface while i tend to "overthink" or think deeper about things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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