Dating someone younger & had less relationships

[Conley85]

so I started dated someone 6 years younger then me and I have had 3 long term relationships and he has had one. He is the sweetest guy out of the 3 idiots b4 him. His intentions are positive but I feel his is "sugar coating" things all the time. Like to him everythings perfect while im very honest about my feelings, he is very general about his. He just says I love you, and your my everything, and im his world, but he never says anything particular or goes deeper than just the surface of his feelings. Which, we both know he has a problem bottling up his feelings. We have talked about seeing a therapist so he can express how he feels and help him learn to express. Does that seem like the best route?

As far as our sex life, I am 31 he is 26, I used to not care about sex at all, but now it seems I have to have it or I get mad, which leads me into me next issue, he often rejects me when I "make a move". He says that he is just not into having sex or oral, but what about pleasing me? And I've never met a man who turned down getting oral sex in the morning before work! Am I crazy? or is there real science behind his thinking?

There's just so many issues and questions gone unanswered because obviously he cant explain his feelings and most time dont even know how to put his feelings into words or how to explain them.

I am literally going crazy because I dont know why he isnt honest about how he feels, he loves cuddling, kissing, rubbing, but doesnt prefer sex, and when I confront him about maybe he dont want to have sex cause of my vagina not pleasing him, or whatever issues, but his rejection makes my self esteem drop very badly.

I need answers!!!!!!!

p.s. one of the things i mentioned that really bothers me is me thinking he is not being honest about his feelings cause he sugar coats everything.

another thing to take into account is his level of thinking is on the surface while i tend to "overthink" or think deeper about things.

[Emarieb80]

Something is up with this. I hate to ask this, but have you ever seen his genitals? Can he have female genitalia? Is he sexually attracted to men? If I'm off base, then has he ever been sexually abused? Is he religious? Its not normal for a 26 year old guy to never want sex. The odd thing is that he likes all other forms of touching. Your gonna have to dig deeper and he is going to have to open up in order for you to make it in this relationship. He is way too closed off, somethings up. Hope you get to the bottom of it. If he agrees to therapy and you want to persue the relationship it may be beneficial. Just know that therapy only works when a person really wants to be there and wants to change. And be mindful when choosing a therapist, look online for reviews!

[littlewasabi]

Im not sure your boyfriends issues are to do with his age. I had a wonderful relationship with a man 7 years younger than me for 4 years until I pushed him away with my neediness and insecurity.

Anyway, sounds like he could be emotionally unavailable? How long have you been dating? If the relationship is fairly new he could be talking with his lizard brain still with all the sweet words. The lack of interest in sex.. seems odd. maybe it turns him off for you to initiate? Maybe wait for him to initiate?