katrina1980 Posted August 16, 2017 Share Posted August 16, 2017 This is to the ladies who multi-date, but men feel free to chime in too. Last summer, I multi-dated a little bit (no sex), but I never really liked any of the guys too much, so always cut if off after around 3-4 dates as they started hinting (or pushing) for sex, and being that I didn’t like them all that much, didn’t want to go there, so just cut it off. After that I had a brief 2.5 month RL with a man who turned out to be very controlling so ended that too. Didn’t really date much after that, I was trying to sort out some personal issues and had no energy or desire to date. I took a long vacay and after returning, I am back to dating again, but DO NOT want anything too intense or serious so I’m multi-dating. Here’s my issue. How do women navigate the issue of sex when multi-dating? I have been dating a man I met at a meet up; I am really attracted to him! On our last date, it got really “hot” between us, but no sex. I am also dating another man whom I like too, and will also be attending another meet up this weekend. The first guy and I have another date scheduled for Saturday and I KNOW he is going to expect sex, and frankly I don’t really blame him; it’s obvious we are both very attracted and like I said, things really heated up between us on our last date, so of course the next step would be sex. And frankly I want it too! So how do I navigate this? Ladies, what have you done? The obvious answer is to WAIT to have sex, but we’re so attracted to each other, how do you NOT have sex when you’re so attracted? But also not wanting a serious RL at the moment; preferring to remain non-exclusive and keeping options open until I'm more sure the guy is right for me. Thoughts? Advice? Thank you! Link to comment
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