haileym Posted August 15, 2017 Share Posted August 15, 2017 My girlfriend of almost 2 years and I broke up about two weeks ago. When she ended it, it came as a complete surprise to me. We were together during all of our free time and never went a day without talking. Everything up until that point seemed completely normal. However, she told me that while she was still in love with me, she was no longer "in love with our relationship". We talked on and off for a week after the breakup, and every time we talked she didn't seem to mind the fact that we were talking but was very firm on the fact that we were not reconciling. After few days of talking, she grew a little frustrated with the fact that she had no space after the breakup. So, we didn't talk for about 5 days. Then, tonight we had our last conversation for the forseeable future where we discussed the real reasons behind the break up. This was her first relationship, she'd never met anyone she'd truly wanted to be with before me, and used to be extremely independent. Before we got together, she did everything alone and had a lot of hobbies and interests that she loved. When we first started dating, I still hung out with my friends a lot and we both got enough alone time to keep the relationship healthy and exciting. However, over time things became familiar and comfortable, which I think is the case with a lot of relationships and was not a problem to us. I was always very happy to be with her at any opportunity, and it seemed that she felt the same way. We mutually enjoyed our time together and loved each other very much. The problem was that on the rare occasion that she'd want to hang out with her friend or do things alone, I'd get upset. I'd think "that was time we could have spent together, I want to soak up every second." In hindsight, I realize that was not healthy. Things continued on, we'd be together all the time, and she revealed that she was too worried to tell me that she wanted alone time in our relationship. She thought I'd get upset at her and think that she didn't love me as much as I loved her, which makes sense to me. So the sudden break up was the result of this feeling building up in her over time. Since the breakup, I only saw her one time to get some of our things back. Tonight I told her that since I didn't give her the space she needed while we were dating, that I would happily give it to her now so that she can have the time to think and do all of the things she hasn't gotten to do in a while. She really appreciated the fact that I'd give her space and openly talked about how she felt leading up to our split. Also, there is no one else in the picture for either of us. She hasn't met anyone new and doesn't plan to, and only really spends time with her best friend (who's going away to school in a week or two) and her sister. Do you think that with patience, time, and working on myself and the problems our relationship faced, that we could possibly reconcile? Link to comment
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