Jessicajane Posted August 13, 2017 Share Posted August 13, 2017 My boyfriend and I were together for 8 months. When we met he was the dream boyfriend, making me feel secure, talking about the future, buying me flowers and wanting to spend every second together. After several months this slowly died down, he wanted to see me less, he wouldn't say nice things to me like he used and stopped telling me he loved me as much. He was still very affectionate in person. This made me feel insecure and talking to him about this would cause a row with him telling me I'm bringing up issues and how he is the worst boyfriend ever. He was often snappy and would have a go at me for small things. After 6 months He stopped showing an interest in my life, he would rarely speak to me, started drinking more and said I wasn't his priority. I felt uncomfortable around him. We discussed breaking up (which I initiated) but were both too upset. We went on holiday two weeks later where we didn't speak much. I spoke to him the day we got back saying how unhappy I was and either he makes me feel loved or I can't be with him. He said he won't change and we broke up. After 3 days I begged him back. He said he loved me but he couldn't do it as it would be delaying another breakup. 2 weeks later he messaged on my birthday, we chatted and he told me how much he was struggling and wanted to meet and discuss giving it another shot. We talked about things, he cried, he said he was happy to only see me 2/3 times a week and wouldn't want to move in together until 3 years. He made out his life and job were more important than mine. I stupidly agreed to get back together but asked him to talk to me more. We stayed together for 2 weeks but only saw each other 3 times, I was away for one week. Each time we saw each other it was me that had arranged and in between he rarely contacted me. He didn't message me for a day, I asked him why he found it so hard to message and said how unloved I felt and how my needs were second to his. He turned around and said it wasn't working, he loves me and wants it to work but he's not going to change and I'm miserable. The relationship has made me feel so insecure but I strangely want him back. Do you think he will return or is that it forever? Link to comment
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