Does dumper really feels for their ex after years of break up?

[Elavohra]

One of my friends is feeling bad because his ex is getting married. In spite of the fact that he had dumped her because she was needy/clingy type. Now, he all of a sudden appreciates all of her imperfections. Though I had tried to make him understand, but he's so stubborn to understand anything.

Does dumper really feels for his/her ex after years of break up?

[LaHermes]

Why do you ask Elavohra?

 

"Does dumper really feels for his/her ex after years of break up?"

 

Does it matter? Wishfully hoping that years later a dumper is sighing over the dumped one. I don't think so.

[Elavohra]

Why do you ask Elavohra?

 

"Does dumper really feels for his/her ex after years of break up?"

 

Does it matter? Wishfully hoping that years later a dumper is sighing over the dumped one. I don't think so.

 

I don't know, I was just wondering. I told my friend that there is no point to think or feel about her now. You should have considered things when she was yours. But, he just want to cry and regret his mistakes now.

Yes, I have been dumped too, but I am way too focused on myself and my career. I am all busy working upon myself and my bad qualities. I don't look behind anymore. I have had made mistakes and now I've lessons to learn from.

[Hollyj]

Then why didn't he contact her after the break up?

[Elavohra]

Then why didn't he contact her after the break up?

 

She blocked him from everywhere, he somehow after years got to come to know that his ex is now getting married, and then he managed to contact her. But things are now different, she has moved on and now he feels why did he break up with her.

[happyfrank]

Sounds more like jealousy over truly caring about somebody. He needs to start dating again and find non clingy girl that is single.

 

Good luck.

[Hollyj]

She blocked him from everywhere, he somehow after years got to come to know that his ex is now getting married, and then he managed to contact her. But things are now different, she has moved on and now he feels why did he break up with her.

 

I bet that if she weren't getting married, he wouldn't be interested.

 

I would not indulge him in his pity party. It is ridiculous.

[shessofly]

For some I'm sure they do, but for many the answer is no. This question does not really have an answer because it is always going to be a case by case basis. Other than hoping they are well I have no feelings for any ex I broke up with.

 

As for your friend, it could be that he not happy with where they are in life and so they are feeling nostalgic, rather than experiencing genuine feelings for the ex. If he really wanted to be with her he wouldn't have waited until finding out she was engaged to make a move.

[MissCanuck]

I bet that if she weren't getting married, he wouldn't be interested.

 

I would not indulge him in his pity party. It is ridiculous.

 

All of this.

 

It sounds like his ego is bruised.

[DanZee]

It's just residual jealousy. Perfectly natural. I got a stab when I found out my ex got married. I just told myself she had dumped me, and I wasn't what she wanted. In your friend's case, he dumped her. He should have even less to be jealous about. Leave her alone.

[DancingFool]

Textbook case of wanting only what you can't have anymore. He didn't want her when he could have her. He sounds very emotionally immature and I'd totally avoid feeding into his nonsense.

[Elavohra]

Sounds more like jealousy over truly caring about somebody. He needs to start dating again and find non clingy girl that is single.

 

Good luck.

 

That's what I said. But he now regrets his mistakes and has given up dating. He can't imagine himself with any other girl now. It seems he needs time to heal. Rest will fall into place.

[Elavohra]

I bet that if she weren't getting married, he wouldn't be interested.

 

I would not indulge him in his pity party. It is ridiculous.

 

Lol hifive I totally agree to this.

[Elavohra]

For some I'm sure they do, but for many the answer is no. This question does not really have an answer because it is always going to be a case by case basis. Other than hoping they are well I have no feelings for any ex I broke up with.

 

As for your friend, it could be that he not happy with where they are in life and so they are feeling nostalgic, rather than experiencing genuine feelings for the ex. If he really wanted to be with her he wouldn't have waited until finding out she was engaged to make a move.

 

All he says that he regret his mistakes. He has lost a quality person. He now realises that nobody is perfect he must learn to accept another person's imperfections.

[Elavohra]

It's just residual jealousy. Perfectly natural. I got a stab when I found out my ex got married. I just told myself she had dumped me, and I wasn't what she wanted. In your friend's case, he dumped her. He should have even less to be jealous about. Leave her alone.

 

He's now feeling bad to lose a quality person. When she was all his, he didn't appreciate and now he regrets for pushing her away.

[Elavohra]

Textbook case of wanting only what you can't have anymore. He didn't want her when he could have her. He sounds very emotionally immature and I'd totally avoid feeding into his nonsense.

 

Love makes you do crazy thing. Hahahaha