Shockscream Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 I seriously hope this is in the right place. Anyways: I (M28 ) met a woman (33) online a little over three months ago. We have talked and talked -- every day since then with one exception -- and we've met twice. During this time she has left her husband after being deeply unhappy for a long time. Initially our relationship was simply fun. I admit there was a mild sexual component but it was talk. I knew she was beginning to feel something. I felt some of it too but I was afraid and I pushed it aside. I've never been good at feelings or telling people when I like them. I buried it. And I made the mistake of telling her to enjoy herself on a date with another man. She did. She has confessed feelings for me. On planning to meet up again she confessed that she'd need to not indulge in those feelings for me because of this other man. In that moment I had the crashing realisation of my depth of feeling for her. And now I'm told that it's too late. I need to know if we can be more. I've not experienced this in a long time. I am terrified of it all. I'm terrified that if I keep pushing and fighting it'll just mean she leaves completely. I can't not know this woman. I've not let anyone in the way I have her in almost a decade. She means a lot. More than I realised. More than I should allow. She tells me the distance between us would make it hard. She's right but I know we could make it work. And then there's the other person. I don't doubt her feelings there. I've lived a controlled and ordered life. One of logic and rationality and realism. She tells me I should apply those now. I don't think feelings are logical. And I don't think I can go back to living like that. I simply don't know what to do. And thus I'm asking anonymous strangers on the Internet for advice. So do you have any? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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