WombatShadow Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 A short one for once! My ex and I are in a mutual and temporary state of No Contact. He says he doesn't need it for himself and would prefer to be in communication for me, but it's become apparent to the both of us that I need it in order to heal. We last spoke two nights ago, and he has graciously agreed not to contact me unless something major happens with him, our friends, or his family that requires my attention. He wasn't happy about it, and was in fact crying quite a bit during our phone call. My question: should I let him know that this isn't an indefinite situation? He was utterly miserable the last time we went No Contact, thinking that he would never get to talk to me again; he literally did nothing but go to work, lay on his couch, and occasionally let his coworkers get him drunk. The thought of that happening again makes me sick, both as his ex-lover and as his friend. We both know that we'll be friends again someday, and in fact I already kind of know when I'm going to break NC (between Sept. 17 and Oct. 1, unless I'm absolutely not moved on enough by that point in which case I shall wait a bit longer), but I can't help but wonder if I should indicate that to him. Full disclosure: I still want to get him back, but that's not the reason behind the No Contact. I care more about salvaging our friendship than I do about dating him right now. Thoughts? Link to comment
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