martinjj12 Posted August 6, 2017 Share Posted August 6, 2017 This might be a long post, but the backstory is needed. So I'm currently in a relationship with a girl whom I met whilst studying, we went in the same class for 3 years and ended up dating loosely since last autumn. Things went great at that time, we would see eachother 2-3 times a week and we both enjoyed eachothers' company. Now, as time has passed, a lot of things have happened. She just moved out of her parents' house to live with some of her friends, whilst working to pay the rent etc. So she's quite busy working which I can understand and actually fine with. But there's also some family issues she has going on which has taken a lot of her energy, so the past couple of months I've just tried being there for her no matter how irritated, mad or sad she's been. There's been a couple of episodes where she's been really degrading and mean to me without any reason, sometimes she would just sit quietly and then suddenly just criticize me with no reason whatsoever. Now bear in mind that I always drop everything in my hands when she needs me, and I've been nothing but supportive to her. These kinds of comments have begun to come more recently and more often. Which annoys me quite a lot because she doesn't seem to be making time for me in her busy schedule in the first place. The last couple of weeks we've seen eachother 1 time per week, and last week we planned to have a day just for us, so we could have a whole day together. I picked her up the night before the planned day because she was at a party, she was way too drunk and sick, so I just drove home and put her to sleep. The day after she was absolutely hungover and I tried helping her however I could but everytime I didn't do something she needed me to she snapped at me. In this particular moment I simply told her to calm down since it wasnt my fault that she was feeling ill. She then told me that it was unfair for me to snap back at her, since she's the one who's feeling bad. And in these cases I'm usually the one who ends up apologizing. It would be nice if she would prioritize the little time we have together, and that she atleast would be the nice, smiling and lovely girl that I first fell in love with back then, when we are together, which isn't often as I've mentioned. She's mad and irritated most of the time we're together, and I really feel like I'm being too nice. I know that she has some personal issues which is why I'm letting these things go by, because I want her to know that I'll be there for her. But my patience is running really low. I love her, and she says she loves me, but she doesn't show it a whole lot. Her friends (friends she barely knows or sees) are a bigger priority than me, during our relatively short relationship, she's said twice that we couldn't see eachother for some time (mostly 4 weeks) because she's busy.. I don't know whether I'm being needy or too nice, but I would really like to know whether I should talk to her about it, or just hope that it'll get better? Link to comment
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