calling out of work

[girl00]

I just moved back to ca after losing my home in hawaii. i have been at my job for about a month. i am really succesful at what i do and i am actually in the process of accepting a new job and quitting my current one (which is all giving me a lot of anxiety because i feel bad leaving) i am going on two trips this month they already know about. i called out once this week "Car troubles" but i had NO clients that day so it wasnt a big deal. i did not forsee last night happening and now i dont know what to do. i tried communicating this to my partner but he didnt help or listen and now im in this sh*t storm. i had a terrible night, arguments, and now i am having a total mental breakdown like i knew i would. i really dont want to go to work, i have a physically and mentally demanding job as a massage therapist. i am throwing up, i have a head ache, i look like , im crying. i accidentally let my parents see i was upset (i dont like people to know usually) and after talking just feel worse. i feel like a shell of a human being with no time to take care of myself.im also off work tomorrow and monday but have fully planned days (getting married and a meeting with rental people about an aparement) i feel like i have no time to take care of myself and really dont want to drive the long drive to work and the long drive in traffic back. theres just a lot going on. too much to describe with my throbbing head ache. i dont need permission to call into work, i dont know what i need. i just feel horrible right now and have to start getting ready. when do you force yourself to go to work, when do you decide your more important? what would i actually spend my time doing today besides getting sick and wanting to die. but at the same time helping other people relax and feel great and using all my physical strength sounds awful right now. idk what to do.

[girl00]

i just realized it sounded like im getting married in the next two days, im not i just hve appointments. that im also debating canceling because of how i feel right now.

[rosephase]

If you are leaving the job in the near future I don't think you have to worry about it. What are they going to do fire you? You've only been there for a month you wouldn't even have to list them on a resume AND you already have a new job lined up. You could walk off the old job right now and be fine. It might make some people you work with upset but it sounds like you need to put yourself first and figure some stuff out. If money isn't an issue... yeah... just leave. Take care of yourself. You are in the middle of like 8 life changing events. So take care of yourself.

[DanZee]

I agree with rosephase. Take the job offer and when you've got the job, tell your current work about it and quit. That will take two things off your mind. Also getting married, especially if you are doing some extensive planning for it, can be very stressful. It's why some people just elope!

 

You got no sympathy from your boyfriend? Oh, boy, that does not sound good for the future. When my wife was going through a similar ordeal with her mother dying, work wanting her to DOUBLE revenue, and so on, I immediately circled the wagons to help her! We went though a lot of scenarios. We couldn't do anything about her mother dying, but we figured out she could QUIT her job and START HER OWN BUSINESS! You should rethink the marriage if your guy doesn't see you're miserable and won't do anything to help. That may be one of the things adding to your stress - that he's not the right guy. If that's true, DO NOT MARRY HIM. You're allowed to change your mind and give yourself time to BREATHE.

[catfeeder]

I'm confused. What is it that you were seeking sympathy from BF for? Has holding down a job become a chronic problem for you?