Does my ex just need time to himself for now? Do you think he will reach out when he is ready?

[Cdm15]

y ex and i had a bad breakup. Outside issues always seemed to break us down and cause us to take out our anger on eachother. We broke up a couple of times in the past but never like this last one in May. He blocked me on everything except for whatsapp so that we could have some contact after he moved to Ireland in June mostly on a whim to be with some of his family and to figure himself out. I think he thought a new scenery could help him and maybe it could. (He has admitted himself he has a drinking problem), but another part of me thinks he won't stay there for long. We had some contact prior to him officially leaving. He told me he would always love me and doesn't want to find anyone else. When he first left I didn't speak to him for a month after he left because I wanted to give him space after he left. He told me prior that he blocked me on other things because it would hurt too much to see me and he didn't want to deal with that. I finally texted him after the month because something I saw reminded me of him. He responded without anger and seemed like everything was fine. But then he blocked me on whatsapp shortly after. I'm very confused right now. I don't know why he did this. If it hurt too much to hear from me after a month? Since he didn't say leave me alone or anything but responded nicely makes me believe he cannot be angry. He didn't have to even respond at all. Now I kinda let it go. It's been another month and clearly we haven't spoken. My sister however recently posted videos of me on snap, and once he saw them he unfollowed her on snap(not on any other social media since this is the only site she posted me on) they don't have any issues so Can it be that it just hurts too much to see me?. People keep saying he will come back and contact me but I don't even know why I care so much if he does. He is not seeing anyone else. I know this for sure. he also told me before he moved he would be coming back to visit in September. I honestly just want an objective opinion. Did he block me to focus on himself and will he reach out when he is ready? Any advice or thoughts on the situation are appreciated.

[DanZee]

I would go with a broader answer to your question. If you were taking your anger out on each other for some time, it just might be that you're just not right for each other. I had a female friend in college and we continued our friendship after college, even dated for a year or so. But every time we were together we would argue with and sometimes she would get angry or start crying over something I said, (although I didn't realize what I said that trigger that would trigger this). I had never experienced this before with any of my friends and I haven't experienced this after. It got to the point where I was afraid to say anything to her besides general niceties. We just weren't right for each other. We cared for each other but we just couldn't be with each other. It could be a similar situation with you.

 

Also if he's drinking a lot, that's never good for a relationship either. I think he knows he has to further himself from you and I would be careful if he comes back saying he's changed and he wants to get back to you. It seems like you've been through this before. People don't really change much without a great effort, and I'm afraid you might wind up back in the same old situation. You need to find someone you actually "click" with.

[shessofly]

It appears to me like he is trying to move on and doesn't want to be in contact. For your own well being you should try to do the same. Three breakups in a year's time...the dynamic between the two if you isn't working.