Damnit - I broke NC..and failed Massively

[jakeg1718]

You guys may have seen my other posts on the site but me and my GF broke up about 2 weeks ago. She claimed to be then in a relationship with an old ex ex ex from when she was like 16 (now 22 and me 24) but then messaged me last Friday night giving me grief about being out with friends "on the pull" as they would say in the uk.

 

After me being a desperate F for over a week I decided to do NC. Leave it - she said she is with this other dude but her status on facebook is single just because "well its not my fault he told his family and put in a relationship" yet was messaging me at the time having a go at me for trying to get over her and get out there with other girls!

 

So we hadn't spoke since Tues...and I had no means of contact, I had her blocked on fbook, she had my number/whatsapp blocked, all good.

I broke...I emailed. General email really, hope you're having a good holiday etc. I then unblocked on facebook (Still status single) and "poked" (cant believe thats still a thing).

I then sent another couple of emails saying really? You're ignoring me after 14 months and a few arguments? Are you really with this dude as it seems like a rebound and you're still single - that sort of thing.

Noticed she had then blocked me on facebook.

Argh! Why did I break NCCCC when she clearly wants to leave it. I get the feeling she does like me still as why would she say she's seeing someone else then have a go at me for being out at a club but Still she's the one who ended it and now my heads a bit Freakin mess!!!

[Elavohra]

Hahahahah honey, love makes you do crazy things.

Okay, now then you've broken your NC, and now regretting af.

You better now, take a deep breath and start your NC again, but this time forever. It's okay to make mistakes, we're all human. Now, learn from it. Keep your head up and don't just don't look back. Do NC for yourself and remember this incident if you're urged to break your NC.

[jakeg1718]

Hahahahah honey, love makes you do crazy things.

Okay, now then you've broken your NC, and now regretting af.

You better now, take a deep breath and start your NC again, but this time forever. It's okay to make mistakes, we're all human. Now, learn from it. Keep your head up and don't just don't look back. Do NC for yourself and remember this incident if you're urged to break your NC.

 

It does indeed - why did I do it! I explained the situation to several of my male friends, some who have been in similar situations and they said "Mate, no contact, trust me" But I broke lol.

Like you say, Deep breath and start the NC again.

[utopia]

No worries, most of us have done that Don't beat yourself up over it... Relax and NC again. It will get better.

[jennylove]

It's fine, it's fine. And really for all you know, she may have your email blocked, too.

[jakeg1718]

Thank you Very much guys

[Lightjocj]

Yup I did it..more then once to. It actually took me a few months to actually stop. After awhile you get sick of being ignored..lol. The last straw for me was, I was in NC for about 6 months, his birthday came around and I sent a very short email..all it said was- happy birthday hope your well take care..guess what I got back. Nothing , not a single thing, 6 months of no talking and I couldn't even get a simple thx back. Needless to say it's been over a year since that happend. I still think about sending a simple hi, but for what? I'm not throwing away over a years worth of NC now

[Elavohra]

Yup I did it..more then once to. It actually took me a few months to actually stop. After awhile you get sick of being ignored..lol. The last straw for me was, I was in NC for about 6 months, his birthday came around and I sent a very short email..all it said was- happy birthday hope your well take care..guess what I got back. Nothing , not a single thing, 6 months of no talking and I couldn't even get a simple thx back. Needless to say it's been over a year since that happend. I still think about sending a simple hi, but for what? I'm not throwing away over a years worth of NC now

 

Oh my god! This is so rude of her. may be she hates you so much now. but still, it was eye opening, I am also on my NC but I thought I'll text him on his birthday this November. But now, I have second thoughts in my mind.

[Lightjocj]

Well at first I was feeling down about it, then anger set in. It seems pretty petty to me. Maybe he's trying to prove a point that he's moved on . Maybe he thought I would continue to reach out, who knows. But i still like many of us reached out. I don't regret it though. It set me back a tiny bit, but yano does anybody want to be with a person like that anyways..I can see if there's cheating or lieing or something that happened in the relationship but there wasn't..i would say if you want to say happy birthday do it. Maybe they respond maybe not, or maybe you get nothing back. Either way you know where you stand at that point. Birthdays are an ecuse to reach out..and I did. I still stand by it and feel good about doing it..and yano, come this Feb I may even say happy birthday again..

[NotMonday]

I've been here myself. It's hard to let go sometimes. Just start NC all over again.

[NotMonday]

Yup I did it..more then once to. It actually took me a few months to actually stop. After awhile you get sick of being ignored..lol. The last straw for me was, I was in NC for about 6 months, his birthday came around and I sent a very short email..all it said was- happy birthday hope your well take care..guess what I got back. Nothing , not a single thing, 6 months of no talking and I couldn't even get a simple thx back. Needless to say it's been over a year since that happend. I still think about sending a simple hi, but for what? I'm not throwing away over a years worth of NC now

 

^^THIS^^

 

I was actually thinking of texting him for his bday...

[misterjister]

After going through NC and viewing each day an achievement to be proud of i do wonder if it's possible to get too invested in how many days NC you have in the bank? I think the fear of being ignored and being setback to day 1, plus also our pride is what keeps a lot of people going. I know it does for me anyway.

 

I've slid down the helter skelter slide and broken NC a few times but it's always been polite with mine.. but it's just not the same chatting as it used to be as we're both conscious of what we say now. It's a weird feeling like its the same voice i hear but a different person...and then i have her contact me too sometimes and it's just awkward. But it's got to be better they contact you instead of bugging them.