Snj9409 Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 I have been with this man for 8 years, needless to say it's been rough, moay of our relationship he has accused me of cheating. When I just absolutely haven't. About a year into our relationship we split up and we both did things with other people, after getting back together after this, we did have break ups but never considered us to be separated, we always continued as if we were a couple without the title until we would eventually get back together. In the past 3-4 months he has because irrational and erratic, accusing me left and right. We do not love together in fact we were planning to, but we got into a huge fight I left he stayed where he lived and I went home which is about an hour away. In the past 3-4 months he will tell me he's seen me with his friends, at places he's at, he's heard stories from people that I don't even know about me, that I'm giving them money, cheating on him, and more. Accusing me of knowing people I don't know, running away from him when he "sees" me, being in different places than I am. Mind you I'm home, and looking for a job... that's it. I defend myself and tell him he's wrong, that's not true, I wouldn't do that, I've told him he's crazy, and seeing things. Now he has just broken up with me, telling me that I've cheated on him again, and that he knows I'm "around" and he's seen me, and this that and the third. Please understand I have found out in the last 5 months he has slept with more girls than admitted to, and have verbal, and physical contact with women. Basically cheating on me. I then found out he was talking to women and "hanging out" further back into our relationship, I don't think he's cheated the entire time, but given the lies that have surfaced finding out he's talking to females, hanging out with them, getting pictures, he slept with 2 women that I just found out about, and I'm sure there is more he's hiding. but I stayed, forgave him. Tried to make it work. All while he accused me of cheating and doing things I would never do. I am just absolutely destroyed, for years I have put up with this , and his cheating, and his mistreatment. I love him so much, it kills me. I'm the type of person that sees the good in everyone and 8 years is a very long time. I feel I can't do this, what can I do! He just said to leave him alone, stop contacting him and that it's over. And I'm sitting here trying to plead my case, and tell him I love him and he's better than this and it's not true, and that I would never do this to him. I have been through so much in my life, and so many horrific things have happened to me, so when I choose to love, I love so hard. Now I'm alone, accused of things I wouldn't do, crushed to the pit of my heart and soul. He doesn't show any sign of remorse or guilt for doing this to me. He is just so "sure" about this. He's okay with just leaving me and moving on. And I'm left broken. Please any advice would help. I'm so incredibly sad right now, I've been crying for days. Today he just ended it, not even listen to me. I have done nothing wrong in any way shape or form, I don't even flirt for gods sake! So content in my relationship with him I only wanted him, and never even thought up the idea of cheating. This is insane to me, and I don't know what to do. Link to comment
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