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Well, I've been in a bit of a "situationship" lately I suppose, and I'm not sure what to think about it anymore due to some current events. I met this guy, we're both very early twenties. We know a lot of the same people, he went to high school in the area, and we go to the same college. He contacted me online first for a reason other than dating, for music lessons, and we met a few times for lessons, he was really awkward and shy. He showed up to one of my lessons extremely hung over. He admits to having a tendency to drink, and he admits to having had depression and suicidal thoughts and he won't take his medication for it, coupled in with he doesn't sleep much. I end the lessons shortly after due to other reasons. Eventually we get to talking more after he's been down, he tells me a ton of personal life stuff, he's texting while he's at work, and he's tells me about his difficult childhood, how he's grieving over the death of a close friend. I figure since he's not a student, it's fine to get more involved, and we go on a date, then the next day he stops replying as quickly to texts, stops telling me good morning and goodnight, I cease communication shortly after, and I date other people.


A few days later I receive this long text message around the time I wake up saying, "I was going to tell you good morning, but I think I'll just leave you alone. I feel like I'm bothering you. I'm sorry if I did something to hurt you or hurt your feelings. I know you're going to do great things in life and I wish you the best...goodbye Anony." Despite my best judgement, I ask what happened, he said, "I don't know. You just don't seem interested." I just leave him alone. Few days later, he's had a medical emergency, and he's texting shortly afterwards. He's apologizing, and I'm still a little frosty, but I tell him I hope he feels better soon. We text some, but it's mostly casual just chatting a few minutes a day. He then goes back into how he was before, thoughtful and wanting to talk, then over a few weeks it escalates into he's wanting us to meet again, that he cares for me, he has a picture of me set as his lock screen (he changes them out frequently of various selfies I've sent or he's gotten from Facebook), and he's told his family that he wants me to be his girlfriend. He's adding me into group texts to talk to his other guy friends, and he's told them that we were serious. He calls me his soon to be girlfriend, and that he wants to do better for me. He tells me all these things that he hopes he can have with me because I "care for him, and I'm so supportive and kind." He's been down and out for some time, unable to drive or work until next week, but he keeps pushing that we go out again soon. Telling me that we'll be a couple as soon as he sees me more.


I agreed to see him last week, but I didn't want to go back to his place just yet. He seems a little peeved, but he says, "Well, that's okay, we'll get there, I just want to see you, I've missed you so much." We met, he seems fine enough until it's time to go. I go home, and he says he has friends over and that he'll talk to me when they leave. I just go to bed. The next evening, he seems fine enough like normal, despite telling me he's hung over again. Saturday he seems a little cold and says he has his friends over, and when am I going to bed. Sunday, still distant. Monday, the same. He makes an effort to tell me good morning, and still every night he says, "Goodnight, baby, have sweet dreams for me". He's backed off on so much of the affectionate stuff, but he still calls me babe or baby, but he doesn't seem to want to meet. He told me he was worried about his money situation since he's not been working, but I'm wondering, should I just cut him off? I've started to talk to other guys now, but I'm not sure where this leaves me. I'm young and I have relatively little experience with this sort of thing.

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