Pegazus Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 I'll keep this brief. Ex and I broke up about 7 months ago after 4 years due to fighting too much. The breakup was far from smooth- we clashed and had several negative text exchanges until I finally decided to cool things off for a bit. I didn't want to lose my ex and figured No Contact was necessary. But I'm wondering if I did it for too long. I felt a month wasn't long enough as the last time we had talked, he was really angry and told me he needed space, and things were toxic between us as that point so I extended it to two months. Once I finally reached out the other day, he was surprisingly pleasant and the conversation stuck to general things like asking about family etc. It was a brief text exchange and he didn't say much (not that he was really a big talker in the relationship anyway) but it was very mature. He had asked me about work, and I responded. The next day, I realised I hadn't asked him about work so I simply said 'hows work?' Just, you know, returning the question that I had been asked. Common courtesy really. He didn't respond. I left it and just thought, okay, he doesn't owe me a response right away as we are not together. Nearly two days passed and still nothing, and now I was annoyed because I could see him active on whatsapp so I knew he was choosing to ignore it. I then just saw it as rude. I was confused as he had been responding really quickly and pleasantly before, so I didnt know what issue was. It wasn't like I bombarded him was long texts begging get back together like I had been doing before. So I had to say something. I wasn't rude, I just said that I felt that I was bothering him and that I wouldn't be offended if he wasn't comfortable talking, and I'd rather just know. Previously he may have taken this as confrontational and told me to leave him alone or something, but instead he simply said I wasn't bothering him but he felt that I was forcing conversation, and that work was fine. So I responded briefly and neautrally and left it at that. There is definitely a change since the 2 months of No Contact. He seems far less angry toward me, but is that really a good thing? Does that mean he's made peace with everything and is now over me? Should I have jusg done the one month? And did I make things worse by asking him if I was bugging him? Maybe I'm overthinking but I'm just wondering if I'm wasting my time where he is concerned. Any advice please? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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