Vexna Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 Hey! So I'm seeing this guy who's on disability for ADD and alot of other symptoms. He often spends time at his parents house in the countryside where he stays for weeks at a time. sometimes months. He doesn't have a phone either (I'm not kidding) so I can't reach him and he hasn't given me the number to his parents so i can't reach him through them. His home in the heart of the city is pretty much empty except for a couch, a table a bed and some kitchen things. It's been like that all of his life but I never understood why until I got to know him better. I get that he goes out to his parents to rest from the city and "load up" but he comes to town, drinks and parties a couple of days and then leaves again, which isn't what I call a relationship. Sure, he's funny, okay looking and we share a common interest where we play the same instrument and since he's better at it than me, he teaches me so we rehearse together but this doesn't feel enough. His sense of humour is great and I laugh my ass off while with him but..All this time alone ..I don't know, maybe I'm just needy? Whenever he has money though, he always treats me to food and such and he's very masculine so that's nice and sweet and he very often tells me how much he likes me and doesn't like when I go home alone at night but that's about all the effort he puts down. I wanna blame this on him being sick but come on... He also has absolutely NO interest in sex due to his sickness. He actually can't get an erection. Or for a short time like a minute or so and then his interest fades. It all gets me depressed. We have so much fun while he's in town and then it's another couple of weeks or more on my own. He also decides when to meet and often he doesn't show up and thinks it's okay to not let me know he won't turn up because he stayed on at his parents. Actually the more I write about it all, the angrier I get. Why does he treat me this way? Cause I allow it? I actually dumped him last year and he went quiet for a couple of months but then started to leave these notes for me in my mailbox. He wouldn't let go. Hmm, maybe he's just bored and needs a friend, so I guess I shouldn't take him too serious? this sure isn't like any relationship I've ever had before. Who just up and leaves like this again and again? On the other hand he says "Do you have any IDEA how much I like you?" often and told me how he couldn't sleep once when he thought I had cheated on him (long story). And I could tell he wasn't lying, he was unshaved and looked worried so something was bothering him. I don't know, maybe I'm over reacting. Can someone just tell me to dump him or stay? And don't be modest, I can take it. Link to comment
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