Brodey Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 I'm so confused and could use everyone's help. I'm 39, my ex of 3 months is a 44. We are both women and have dated women our entire lives. She broke it off with me and told me she was in a relationship w a woman for 8 years and before that one for 6 years and she wants it to be all about her right now and find out who she is. We ended very well, chatted a few times after our breakup as friends. I decided it was time to move on so I joined a dating site. Been talking to a few women. Been good, felt closure, and moving forward. I decided to sign onto my match account because I'm getting more serious about finding someone for me. But there was that hope deep down she still loved me as a person. After all she was honest and we ended well. When I signed onto match I noticed her profile. She is now looking for a man! I'm in complete shock, at 44 I guess she is changing gears? She's catholic and it's difficult for her family to accept her so I figured maybe she was trying to just find happiness and make her life easier. But to be honest I'm heartbroken she wasn't honest with me when we broke up. I thought she respected me as a person and now I'm questioning how long she's felt this way. It hurts to know she wasn't honest and I'm very hurt. Part of me wants to reach out and acknowledge how difficult of a time she must have had with all of this. And let her know I would always be her friend. The other part of me wants to question her and ask if she lied to me to avoid hurting me, or for whatever reason. I am completely shocked! I'm moving forward with my own life but I'm so crushed. I know if we have any chance for friendship that I would want to know if she felt she had to lie. Please help me make sense of this!!! She said she wanted to be alone but two months later she's looking for a man? Hurts. Link to comment
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