foolishsunsets Posted July 27, 2017 Share Posted July 27, 2017 Hello, So I've been dating this guy for two months earlier this year. It was my first attempt at a proper relationship. I had dated someone before, but not long-term. Everything was going wonderful until I had some several issues. Everything literally went downhill, I had to move out of my parents house, had a car crash (lucky for me I wasn't harmed but I had to purchase a new car), switched jobs and had to distance myself from my best friend after she started drifting into the drugworld etc. He was pretty much what I look for in a man, kind, handsome and intelligent, however he does seem to have some ego issues. His last relationship ended in a disaster, his girlfriend broke up with him and told him she had never loved him, afterwards he 'regained his self esteem' by sleeping with another girl, they made up and broke up again a couple months later. He is a little insecure sometimes but tries to overcome it by overplaying it and sometimes pushing people's emotional buttons. I'm normally a very secure person, maybe a little shy, but I know how to stand my ground if I have to but everything that had happened was draining me so I put way to much value onto him instead of working on fixing my own issues. So without noticing it I started jumping through hoops for him and we got into a fight. I had completly lost myself back then and asked him to take me back. After that it was on/off for two more weeks until he ended it for good. I tried reaching out to him shortly after that and he told me to leave him alone. I got upset and unfriended him on facebook to be able to move on etc. A while later he suddenly messaged me saying 'cool photo' after a partyphoto of me and a friend was posted there. After that he started viewing my whatsapp status regularly, sometimes just minutes after I posted it; however he ended up blocking me there out of nowhere? Probably because he didn't want to look at it any longer. He did tell me when we talked last that it is hard for him too but he just doesn't think it will work out. So to keep myself from viewing his facebook (and him from keeping tabs on me, because I know he does that...) I blocked him on facebook now. For now I want to focus on healing and getting my life back in order. I'd like to regain my power and independence back from the situation and I don't really want him to just suddenly pop up again, if that makes sense? I'm going to work the next two months on bettering myself and keep him blocked; I have already started picking up new hobbies; going to the gym regularly again, taking pottery classes; got back in touch with my family (things are going well). I have also gotten a new job and car. I'm also working on building up a better circle of friends. I am not devastated anymore that things ended... but I really miss him, we texted/talked pretty much all day and I could talk to him about certain topics, that I couldn't even discuss with my close friends. However, I feel like he should have been more considerate about my situation instead of testing my limits... So I'm going to give both of us space for now and will possibly reach out to him in three months. I feel like it's a good sign that he did reach out to me that one time, even if it wasn't a proper conversation; so to me it seems like he just said in the head of the argument that he doesn't want to hear from me again... unless I'm overanalyzing. What do you guys think? Link to comment
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.