NuMoon Posted July 26, 2017 Share Posted July 26, 2017 Hello, About two months ago, my 24 year old stepson relocated from Ohio to live with us (my husband, our two daughters and me). We have a two bedroom home and our girls share a bedroom so my stepson basically sleeps on our living room couch. The stipulation to him staying with us was that he had to get a job and until he did, he needed to do his share of chores (basically, keep the living room clean, wash any dishes he messes up, etc). In the two months that he's been us, he hasn't done any of that. In fact, he really doesn't do much of anything. He sleeps all day and doesn't even get up until late afternoon. Once he's up, he's on the computer playing games. He does interact very well with my youngest daughters and they adore him. Beyond that, he really has no friends. He doesn't go out...at all. What has really come to concern me is that I think he has suffering from some form of depression. I have come in some days and just found him sitting in a corner in our living room crying. I asked my husband about this and he told me that my stepson years ago was sexually abused by a friend of his mother. My husband said once he found out, he threatened the guy and the guy left. My husband then says, "He should be over that by now" as it happened when my stepson was about 13. I'm not sure he is over it. Then there's the reason he moved here. He had a very bad falling out with his mother. From there, he moved out of her place to live with some friends of his in OH. When he stayed with the roommates, he left there as well due to some of the same problems I'm having with him here: not cleaning up behind himself, not being able to keep a job, etc. I don't want to see him be put out because honestly, I don't think he can handle any more adversity. At the same time, I feel like he needs to get some type of help. I've talked with my husband but he merely shrugs his shoulders and says that I need to stop feeling sorry for my stepson. I even spoke with his mother who basically said the same thing: My stepson is too sensitive and needs to grow up. I don't know what to do. It's hard to stay out of it when he's here and I see all of this. What, if anything, can be done? Link to comment
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