Victoria77 Posted July 25, 2017 Share Posted July 25, 2017 So I became friends with someone I worked with. He would come up to me every day and complain about his wife- how she wouldn't come home, ridiculed him and the things he was interested like video games and shows and such, and even described times where she verbally and physically abused him and he got to the point where he wanted a divorce. Apparently they got married very young and it was his first relationship. We started hanging out because I wanted to be a caring friend, but we instantly made a connection. By the second date we were kissing, and before I knew it he was spending several weekends in a row at my house. We grew extremely close, telling each other all about our childhoods, our pasts, our dark secrets and our hopes and dreams. He considered me his girlfriend and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me a long time. We did everything together, laughed togetber, I met some of his friends and he told me he wanted me to even meet his family eventually. But there were interferences, like I had made him dinner and he took an hour and a half phone call with his wife arguing. She had messed up his taxes and he ended up having to unexpectedly pay a large sum of money. The last 'straw' was when he said her name on accident during sex with me. As we were both intoxicated, I reacted rather upset and asked him to leave. The next day my head was clear and I wanted to forgive him for the mistake and move forward with our relationship, but he said that he felt 'broken' and that he couldn't be the man that he thought I deserved in a relationship. He's going through a lot of therapy. I gave him the space he needed, despite that it hurt so bad to let him go. About a week later I left donuts at his work for him as well as a note saying that what I felt about him is real, that I supported him and would wait for him to sort through his issues but I never heard anything back except a simple 'thank you'. I asked him to please acknowledge me, don't be a stranger to me but I haven't heard anything back. Right now I'm feeling like I don't deserve to be with someone who leaves me and ignores me, and I'm questioning the validity of the relationship on his part. Was he lying when he said he loved me? I'm trying to move on but I don't know if I can replace the connection I felt with him. And I'm conflicted because I'm doubting whether the connection was even authentic, because were his feelings even authentic? I'm angry and lonely and confused. I'm okay with being single but I dream about feeling that love that I felt before. Some advice other than 'just get over it' would be much appreciated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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