Informing your ex on some Life changing event? Good gesture?

[cococly]

My exgf of 3.5 yr left me for another guy.

 

I used to plan to move to a new country with my now exgf. She knew it, we had a detailed plan about it before we split. we planned to leave our home country in mid-2018, after we have saved enough money for a new life else where.

 

Now that I am no longer needed to stick with that plan, I am planning to leave in Mid-2017, most likely for good.

 

I have also found a new direction in life, which is to prepare for a brand new career for myself. It's a kind of profession that should catch her attention.

 

I know it might feel like I am bragging about my new life direction, if I initiate contact with her and tell her that.

 

We are on very very minimal contact over the past 2 weeks.

 

If I still want to leave the door open for reconciliation ( Yes I know how bad she treated me), should I tell her what is going to happen to me? If I settle else where, there really would be zero chance that we would ever see each other again.

 

I have an URGE to tell her that I have found a new direction and would be leaving for good, but I am on Minimal contact with her now, I don't think she would care or be jealous of?

Yes, I know my future has nothing to do with hers, and vice versa, but I thought some broken-up couples are still curious of what each others are up to?

 

- I just let off some steam after writing this

[LaHermes]

Coco.

 

You haven't listened to one single word other posters have said to you on "Is it over" and other threads, have you.

 

Why in heaven's name would you want to, as you put, it catch her attention. What possible purpose would it serve. I ask.

 

"It's a kind of profession that should catch her attention. "

 

 

She likely isn't even thinking of you let alone being curious about what you are doing.

 

If you are going, then get going, and it IS already mid-2017!

 

I am planning to leave in Mid-2017, most likely for good.

 

 

Just do it!

[mg22]

Why tell them anything if they aren't asking you . Just you trying to show them your doing well in your life, don't have to rub it in ! If she wanted to know i am sure she would ask you directly.

[LonelyJedi]

My exgf of 3.5 yr left me for another guy.

 

It's a kind of profession that should catch her attention.

 

Do you think she will come running back to you after hearing about this new profession? If it does, that means she cares more about your job than who you are as a person. It would be a very fragile relationship at best.

 

I agree with LaHermes, the news won't deliver the results you are hoping for.

[cococly]

My heart wanted to cave in and let out all my emotions when I am alone, I am glad that I didn't take any actual actions.

 

I am using this platform to unload some of my feelings.

 

Jedi: You have woken me up. I need to keep that in mind.

 

Thank You to All of YOU!