Why does my boyfriend want watch porn rather than have sex.

[Kitkat2345667]

Porn in our relationship didnt bother me until like a few days ago when we were both kinda "feeling eachother" and then he goes " im going to go watch porn i kinda want to". Which confused me. Like it wasnt like i didnt want ti have sex because i made it clear that i did. Idk but its been happening so much lately like we used to have sex like 9 times a week now im lucky to have it once a week. Whats going on? Is he like losing intrest in me? Im scared and sad i just need some advice.

[Pleasedonot5]

When in doubt, communicate. It would be best if you approached a talk with him about your wants and his wants in a constructive manner. Let him know that his wanting to watch porn instead of have sex with you upset you a bit, ask him if there is anything bothering him, and then redirect the conversation to what he thinks you can do to make sex better for him. Does he want to try anything new with you, does he have any ideas as to what to incorporate into sex? Do you?

 

It would be easy to approach this as "he's addicted to porn" but I think that that is less likely. There very well could be a communication issue here, as in he does not know how to bring up ideas for the bedroom.

[Hollyj]

Sounds like he may have a problem with it.

[twentysix]

It's nice that he's honest & open about it haha!

 

But that's definitely strange to be feeling up your girlfriend and then announce that you're off to watch some porn.

[Bart Barterson]

Have you tried talking to him about his sexual fantasies? Men go to porn because they're sometimes afraid or ashamed of their deepest sexual proclivities. Maybe read up on talking dirty to him ( e.g. articles on romancoholic.com). If you can communicate in that intimate way with him, he won't need porn

[christinawards]

Communicate with him is the better option rather than imagining things by your own and making things complicated.

Ask him if he has any other issues. Give him some time to explain his side.

[Giblesp]

Time for a new boyfriend. Nothing much else to say...