missunsure2017 Posted July 23, 2017 Share Posted July 23, 2017 Ok, so. I was with my ex for 4 years. I moved after 3 yrs with him closer to his hometown so we could begin saving for a place together whilst I was a live in nanny. For a year we did this before he decided to end our relationship for good. At xmas we had a little niggle where he said it was over but it ended up him texting me a lot and we got back together may/april ish. Over the span of the years he had various health issues and it seems mental health was the root cause. I supported him throughout it all and so many people commented on the fact I was there throughout all of the horrible bits and never ran a mile when I could have easily. I've never loved anyone so much and wished so much we could swap places so he could just be happy. He ended our relationship and reasons were that we were two different people at different stages of life wanting different things, that he has tought for two years that we weren't compatible, that he never cheated but towards the end of the relationship found himself looking at other people wishing he was. Fast forward to two months of me being desperate to get him back and pleading to him eventually blocking me on whatsapp as he felt he couldn't answer my questions again. After 6 days he unblocked me.. I felt different in the sense of he now wanted my attention but I ignored his messages. He found out I'm moving to a different part of the UK so kept saying he had things to say before we went and even his mum told me I should meet up and hear him out. After ignoring him for a good week I eventually saif a time and place, take it or leave it. We met up at a local park. I felt so awkward and defensive that I barely said anything at first. During the hour that I was there... he told me how he had become a completely different peraon who i'd now hate, that he's reading some book about playing the game & is sleeping with lots of girls. He basically said he's using them for sex when they may think its more. I feel completely disgusted that 4 years meant nothing & he told me all of the ins and outs of what he's been doing. I felt sick and felt so used as a person for such a long time. I donMt understand why they do it?!!! Will be feel better? Has anyone experienced this and come off worse? Does it last a long time?! I don't love him the same anymore but I feel like any chance we had of one day in the future making ammends is ruined. He just said he doesn't care about anyone or anyones feelings anymore & it's so sad as he never ever used to be like this. I just can't seem to shake of the feeling of wishing things were different. I invested so much into those 4 years and on reflection realised he didn't. I just don't know what to do moving forwards. I'm still moving & know starting somewhere fresh will help but I feel this strong desire to tell him that he doesn't have to be like this as I still care about him so much. I just don't know what to do. Link to comment
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