neuman65 Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 BACKGROUND: I met my now boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 20. We had no idea it would turn into a relationship but 3 months of texting and hanging out once in a while turned into more than just a friendship. We started out as a long distance relationship (2.5 hours), he worked and i finished high school and worked. College time came around and i went to a university 1.5 hours closer to him. It was perfect we saw eachother so much more just about every weekend. Sophmore year of college, we found out we were pregnant (3 years dating) and were 4.5 months along. Moved in with him, had our daughter and been living life together ever since. No break ups or crazy fights everything has been great but one thing. Main Issue: Now 22 and 26 years old with a 2 year old daughter and two dogs in a 5.5 year relationship. We live off his income while I continue college (almost done!) and there is no issue with money. My frustration is he has not proposed yet. I dont know whats holding him back and it is irritating to me. We have a happy little family together, own home free and clear, have 2 amazing businesses but nothing that makes him and I official. His family addresses me as his Mrs. and my extended family just started saying the same thing. 😠 Biggest pet peeve. THE RING: I have a gorgeous ring from my late grandma and am going to use the diamonds out of hers (rocks!). He had me go out and find where and what i want. Designs were made 10 months ago and I brought him to the jeweler to see what I wanted and meet the designer. He encouraged this whole process but still nothing has happened. I still see my grandma's ring on his nightstand and nothing. Since I picked out the ring I have not talked about marriage or proposing since then until... CURRENT: He promised me by my birthday he would propose but nothing (a few weeks ago). (He told me to stop talking about it to give him a chance to propose) Day after birthday I address my frustration and gave him a final deadline of the end of 2017. Should I have? He keeps saying he wants to get married. I have already agreed to the pre nup terms. I told him I am even willing to get married the courthouse so he us not the center of attention (he dislike that) but he says I deserve a big wedding. MY CONFUSION: Should I just stay living with him for a while? If so how long? Should I move out with my daughter so he knows how important marriage is to me? We already live like a married couple, so should I have held out on things? I do not know what to call him anymore bf, living partner, practically husband but not official, my daughter's father? Im lost and very confused. I do not want to lose him but I do not know how to prove a point. Link to comment
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