Wolfboy702 Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 So I just found out the girl I love is seeing someone else and it HURTS. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and there's just a void where it was, life has no meaning and I can't stop thinking about the two of them together. I can't even cry i feel so empty. I'm not really looking for answers, I just have no-one in my life to talk to and I needed to get this out. Thanks for listening Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vicky89 Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 Well, you have some emotional baggage there. All your questions you've posted on here are either about her or just down depressing "end my life" type of questions. Honestly, I've been there, depressed, hopeless, but then I realize, this is all an experience, life is..... an experience, a moment in time. Your existence here is fleeting, you won't be here forever so just enjoy the time you do have here. I have started by surrounding myself with positive things, this just started maybe a couple of short weeks ago. I have started reading motivational books by Tony Robbins, and watching inspirational videos on youtube. I like to follow people who are successful on there as they bring about a level of positivity in me. I feel like whatever thoughts you decide to surround yourself with are the things that will manifest themselves in your life. If all you do is focus on the negatives and get depressed, your life will take a turn for the worst, negative and depressed feelings affect all aspects of your life, your productivity at work, your goal making abilities, your emotional well being, your physical well being, your love life, your finances. What's there to be unhappy about ? Get lost in a good inspirational book, go do something you've always wanted to do, if you are feeling lazy, just watching something inspirational on youtube, Netflix, or even something as simple as listening to an upbeat song, will help you get in a more positive mood. I have started by cutting off as much sugar intake from my diet as possible, eating as healthy as I can ( I still cheat here and there with some sweets ) listening to an upbeat song on my way to work, plan on the rest of the day, surrounding myself by only positive vibes, and focusing on the good things I DO have instead of the things I lack or don't have. You want to attract and bring about the good, not the bad. You keep thinking of her getting away with another man and you allow yourself to be consumed by these thoughts that bring about no happiness only sorrow and that's all you will project onto your life. Do you realize how many people there are on earth and that you WILL find someone else to make a connection to ? She is with someone else because that's who she wants to be with, she's making decisions in her life that she feels will bring her joy, and guess what ? You should too ! You need to start being all about those positive vibes because. well, because why not ? Who the hell wants to be miserable all the time ? Maybe do you a vision board of the things you'd like to happen in your life, what do you want from a relationship ? Finances ? Health ? and list the things you want and not focus on what you don't have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfboy702 Posted July 21, 2017 Author Share Posted July 21, 2017 Nothing else has meaning, none of it matters. Any fleeting positivity is drowned out by thoughts of her, I don't have passion for anything else. Nothing makes me happy anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shessofly Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 Your post from April says you found out she had a boyfriend then. Is this a different girl? Do you really want to feel better ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfboy702 Posted July 21, 2017 Author Share Posted July 21, 2017 Same girl, different boyfriend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vicky89 Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 Same girl, different boyfriend Get out of the house, there are so many women out there, this one is not the only one you can have chemistry with. Nothing wrong with liking someone, but when they tell you they don't feel the same way and they are dating other people.... it's time to move on. You are obsessing over this and deny yourself meeting another woman you'd be more suited for than her. Plenty of single chicks out there that want a man ! Why sit around moping and being depressed ? The best way to get over someone is time and meeting someone new to be interested in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chimva96 Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 Hey bud, I know it seems easier said than done but in your situation the only option is to forget her, focus on yourself, and move on. You have to live in the present moment and act off of the events that are reality. Either you can stay obsessed with this girl forever and NEVER feel better, or you can pick yourself up and go find the next best thing. Sorry man, odds are she's not coming back. She's doing her own thing and she could care less about you. You may say "who is this guy? He doesn't know my story or what me and her have been through". Your right, I don't. I do know, based off of what you said, she is seeing other guys. Do you really think that if she still loved you, she would be seeing other guys? No, she would be with you, but she's not. She's already moved on. You have to as well. Understand the reality of the situation and moved forward in life on your own path separate from hers. She isn't involved with you like that anymore. I know this is a hard pill to swallow but its the only thing you can do if you want to feel ALIVE again. I was in the same boat just recently, but I started taking action and moving forward by MYSELF and believe me when I tell you that I am seeing progress and feeling better. There is a light at the end of this tunnel. Hang in there and move forward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piolin0295 Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 Keep yourself busy, i was like that for 2 weeks maybe longer.what i did was started working out eating better.fixung my house anything to keep my mind off her.in my situation its harder we have a child so no matter what more than likely im gonna see her.she doesnt live with me anymore.i know shes been with other people or so think.but look not my business yeah it sucks man but you have to better yourself.keep your mind off her dude seriously. Who knows maybe she will come around but you have to start with yourself.once ahe sees your getting better and better like more fit dress nicer she may be like hey ima talk to him again.you never know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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