tdag Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 Hi Guys, I'm looking for a little advice. My ex and i broke up just over four months ago since then she has publically started a relationship with someone else and are going away on the trip we had planned together this August to her home city of Paris, having found out about the relationship i text her to say i am happy she is happy and that i'd like a chance to speak to her over a coffee so she knows that I am sincere. A day after that text i was involved in a motorbike accident and thought it was right to let her know that I am ok, but bruised. The reason i did this was that we have the occational conversation and bump into each other every week in a coffee shop before work. Her new BF replied telling me to essentually back off, and then apologised to her in the same message thread. There is a lot of back ground to all this, i know what went wrong and have put that right but for now i want to send her the following letter (in French) is it too long or the wrong thing to say considering i want to patch things up, also would you say having the boyfriend text me that he is controlling her somewhat knowing we speak and split up four months ago and could be worried about it? Dear Sandra I’ve been thinking of the right thing to say to you and how to say it. It may be wrong but it’s what is right for me so you know, here goes. Firstly for anything I have done to make you feel awkward, I did not what it come across that way. I truly believe we are good and should remain on good terms. Everything I have been doing is with the best intentions. I wanted to show you that we can be friends and have happy communication between us despite what has happened. Like you said we landed in the best way and that is how it has to stay, asking you meet face to face is not right and cannot happen for the time being and especially now I was wrong to do that. Secondly, If you feel that I have been pushing you by speaking with two of your friends I want to apologise, I have only ever said that I want to reconnect with you as a friend and these conversations came around by chance and my words said with the best intentions, I was always sincere, polite and respectful and non-invasive into your life. I do not want to interfere or ruin things for you. I understand and accept that our relationship over, the last year and half will forever be a memory for us both, one which is cherished and full of the happy memories of the times we spent together experiencing, discovering and being with each other, all those moments will last forever. However, some love is not supposed to be forever but everyone’s is special in its own way and has a purpose. For us it was a journey onto new things, for me it has empowered me to be a new man who is wiser and one that has grown. For you it has been a journey into new beginnings and a bright future, I only have happiness for you and sincerely wish and hope you the very best with everything that happens for you in the future. We should both be thankful for these gifts we gave each other and having had met and spent the time together we did. I have been blessed to have been part of your life and the journey that we took. I would, when the time is right like to remain friends when you do if when it is time. I do believe this is possible and would be good for us both, a new journey one with new memories. If this is meant to be it will be, there is a plan for us all and it would mean a lot. Until then I will continue on my journey and you on yours, wherever they take us. We are both rare people and things can change so quickly, I have learned this very recently so everything needs to be cherished including the past. Have an amazing time in Europe and I hope it brings you the happiness you deserve, this is from the heart and I want you to know that, I’m always going to love and care for you and if you need me I will listen and give you the strength you have given me. Don't be afraid of saying hello if you see me, you will always put a smile on my face, and I hope that happens for us both one day. Always in my heart, never a stranger and with love. Sincerely yours. Thomas Dylan Allan. Looking forward to hearing Link to comment
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