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A small thing, but it still hurts...


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Was in a 7-year relationship. We broke up 2.5 weeks ago. I honestly thought that I was doing okay, and then something so ridiculously trivial happened that left me feeling devastated all over again.

 

While together, she always let me use her Amazon Prime account. It was really a very small favor on her part. She was paying for Amazon Prime anyway, and it didn't cost her anything extra to let me use the same account as her.

 

I attempted to login to the account just now, only to discover that she had changed the password. It's such a small, stupid thing that shouldn't bother me. Especially since I can just pay the darn $99 for my own Amazon Prime account.

 

But it felt like a punch in the gut. Perhaps it feels as though she's moving on; the things that we once shared, she's actively trying to separate.

 

It just sucks.

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But it felt like a punch in the gut. Perhaps it feels as though she's moving on; the things that we once shared, she's actively trying to separate.

 

It just sucks.

 

That's usually how break ups go. You actively try to separate. When my ex and I split after 5 years, I simply stopped using any services that were hers and opened my own. Its part of the process.

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I know very well this is easier said than done but you have to try not to take things personally. Everyone has their own ways of coping an adjusting to a break up. 7 years together is a long time, you're clearly on her mind just as much as she's on yours. Distance from each other is crucial when it comes to healing, even if it's the small minor things such as this. I know very well how you feel, my ex and I used to play these cute little android phone games. When our break up happened she removed me from them, snap chat as well, you name it. It's just understanding that everyone is different and they will react differently. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't care about you anymore or instantly moved on, just that she has to do what she needs to do cope. You as well. 2.5 weeks isn't that long ago, it may take a bit longer for things to settle, then you may view things differently. But remember you'll get through it, you can do it!

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Thank you for this. Your sympathy and uplifting note is a big help.

 

Not a problem! Remember to keep your head up and move forward. Just take care of yourself, it's the best time to be selfish. Try not to over analyse and constantly try to figure out the intention behind everything she does. When things like that happen I generally ask myself this question. How is this helping me? If you can ask yourself that question and answer it, it could help keep negative thoughts away. You'll start focusing in on what matters most, and that's what you do from here on out to better yourself. Don't beat yourself up for any reason, you'll get better.

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