Boyfriend kissed another girl drunk at a festival

[RK123]

hey guys, i have been struggling with what to do in my relationship and need help on some advice since the people in my life are not very understanding.

 

my boyfriend and i have been dating for around 1 and a half years and are both 17 and it was a lot of fun. we would go on trips together for example to Bali and just were inseparable. before i dated him he was known in town to be the f**k boy and had slept with multiple girls. i was very hesitant to get with him but went over one day and just got a long way too much. After a few months of talking we dated. During that time of talking he was sleeping with other girls but i did not get with any guys. When we dated i was able to trust him so much and just did not worry if he was cheating or anything which he didnt do. it was around the 6 month mark of our relationship and i was snooping on his phone which i know i should not have been doing. Anyways i found messages from the first week of us dating he was talking to another girl. saying he liked her and that he was jealous when she was with other guys and that he missed her. i was very hurt at the time and he apologised and i forgave him after a lot of effort. He hadnt done anything after that to my knowledge. Anyways we went through a part of our relationship that wasn't good and couldn't talk to each other. we sorted it out and everything was good until a festival that our town holds every year and is very big. he told me a few weeks before that he wouldnt do drugs and i believed him. Anyways while at the festival i saw him and he was on drugs and i acted very angry and disappointed. after that night he messaged me saying that we shouldn't date and i was left heart broken. a few weeks later we talked things out and became our normal selves and just loved every minute together. When one day 2 months after the festival i decided to check his phone. i was in disbelief and shock to find that he had told his friend he hooked up with a girl after our fight. he still hadnt told me about it. I confronted him about it and he burst out into tears telling me how sorry he was and that it was a mistake. he was saying how he didnt want to tell me because he knew he messed up and that i would break up with him. he said he tried multiple times to tell me but was too scared for me to end it. he didnt stop crying and was telling me he loved me so much and begging for my forgiveness saying he will never do it again. he said that the girl kissed him and that it didnt last long and left straight after. he said he felt horrible after he did it and that was a big reason on ending it coz he felt so bad.

 

i need your advice wether i take him back and forgive him or give him a miss. thankyou guys x

[Theseeker]

I'm giving my opinion that you should not take him back just to consider the fact that one day he's going to wake up and relize what he lost you sound like an amazing human being that deserves so much and I feel like he's disrespecting you, and I feel like as a young lady you should know your worth not to be treated like that.

[MissCanuck]

No, do not take him back. He is not trustworthy.

 

I know this will sound condescending and Mom-ish, but you two will move on and date plenty of others in your lives. You're so young - don't sell yourself short by staying with a boy who doesn't respect you and cannot stay faithful. This is a guy who wants to explore and see what else is out there; he's not ready for commitment so let him go. He is not worth wasting your youth, I promise you.

[RK123]

I'm giving my opinion that you should not take him back just to consider the fact that one day he's going to wake up and relize what he lost you sound like an amazing human being that deserves so much and I feel like he's disrespecting you, and I feel like as a young lady you should know your worth not to be treated like that.

 

Thankyou for your reply and advice. means alot

[RK123]

Thankyou so much