Time2growup Posted July 17, 2017 Share Posted July 17, 2017 I've been dating someone 7 years younger and extremely successful in what she's does. I'm struggling to get by. To me she's very attractive and see her inner beauty. She's not got the best family situation which doesn't concern me most. She's so opposite to me and cold. I'm very hands on touchy feely, and she doesn't like public affection and is hard to converse in talk sometimes, plus she doesn't always get my humour but it's definitely my most attractive feature apart from rugby player build. Our sex is good and she's going through some hard times with her body due to operation. I'm very needy and need resurance as I'm addict. No longer a drug addict but i am addicted to everything and in the past had problems in relationships as I never grow up and I move pretty fast as always so emotional and off loading my thoughts. But as most of you know addicts can be the most loving sincere people and we just don't understand general life. I try take the slow approach with her but she gets very paranoid about me when I'm generally asleep as so tired. It sounds toxic and it could be, but yet something draws me to her and we share future desires together. I feel she'll be good for me and moving on and most importantly growing up from naughty ways, settling down and one day starting a family. I definitely don't want anyone else but she's becoming way to challenging and dull but her irrating and being cold makes me like her more. Which makes me feel that's what my Nan and Grandad were like. Nan was tough skinned, grandad was the joker. But she was so loyal to him and worshipped him. So....Should I give her time? She doesn't express her feelings at all. She's never complimented me. I see a dark truth to her which draws me closer to her. I idolise her but should I be doubting it so soon, a few months in? I generally feel like I'm doing all the work and patience isn't my virtue. I pretty much know the right answer, but just maybe right now I've got to focus on me just me and not want what she's achieved. This is my first ever post on a forum. Any advice would be appreciated Link to comment
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