smoothNC Posted July 13, 2017 Share Posted July 13, 2017 Here's my story, I'm in my early forties, she is in her early thirties, we are both married to other people with children but in failing marriages. We became involved about 2.5 years ago in an intense relationship where she always loved me more than I her and she knew it. The last 6 months have been difficult as she focused more of her attention at work and school and we didn't see each other as much as I would have liked. The last 3 months or so I have been sensing a change in her feelings for me and confirmed when she dumped me last month for another guy, someone she had been talking to. I was aware of him, but never thought he was a threat of any kind until now. I had taken her for granted for most of our relationship, she always chased me and has confessed she was madly in love with me for years. Recently she stated her feelings have changed that things between us had become boring/routine and she wanted to enjoy her summer. I have taken this break up much harder than I thought and I realized too late that I loved her more than I had thought, it was devastating. I was begging her to come back during this time and had a moment of weakness and despair. She was adamant about not coming back to me and intends to see her new relationship through. I don't know much about the new guy other than that he's my age, but he has showered her with attention and made her feel special. He seems to be a complete opposite of me. To me this seems like a GIGS/rebound type of relationship for her, so I don't know how successful it will be. Through the advice of a friend I have initiated NC, now on day 6. She has called/texted me without fail every 4-5 days, which I have replied before NC to let her know that I wanted a second chance. Should I continue NC and if so for how long? Is she calling me out of pity? What are my chances in getting her back? thanks Link to comment
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