Any chance of getting back my girlfriend?

[Stormblast]

I dumped my girlfriend of 3 years a almost 2 months ago, and we've been NC for the last month. I wasn't feeling good in being in a relationship anymore and I was feeling that this hurted both me and her, so I decided to take the step and end it, problem is I did really mess this up, doing all this on the phone, and confessing I had a one night stand one week later when she asked. Now the big problem is that I never felt good after the breakup and never even enjoyed the "freedom" I was craving, and I had quite some time to think about all our relationship to realize I still love her so bad; so after spending the last week through an emotional hell I called her in tears and after a little chat I asked to see her to talk in person, she seemed really cool, surely cooler than me, but I really don't know what to expect. I guess the odds are all against me, 'cause this is the second time this happens and it's always been my fault.

I am ready to take a big step if it can be for the good and win her trust and love back, does anyone have been in a similar situation and if yes how did it work out?

By the way we're both in our 20s.

[Tomthumb88]

What did you say when you called and what did she say?

If their is a next time.. contact her when you're less emotional

[Stormblast]

What did you say when you called and what did she say?

If their is a next time.. contact her when you're less emotional

 

Well first of all she asked if I was ok, if anything bad had happen 'cause I was actually in tears and too emotional. Then after we chatted a little she asked why did I call and I told her that i missed her a lot. I then asked if we could meet in person to talk ( since this didn't happen at the break up ) and if she was fine with me writing her sometimes, she answered yes to both of my questions. I will 100% follow your advice and contact in a less emotional moment.

[Tomthumb88]

Ok.. she agreed to meet up which is a good sign. Do that.. but make sure you have a hold of your emotions before you meet.

Do that instead of writing.. less is more sometimes

[Stormblast]

Ok, thank you very much for the hint... I'm really struggling with sense of guilt right now for my behaviour with her, but I do understand that if she is anyhow willing to accept me back it can take time. When we'll meet up should I go all in or can this be counterproductive?

[valavoo]

Ok, thank you very much for the hint... I'm really struggling with sense of guilt right now for my behaviour with her, but I do understand that if she is anyhow willing to accept me back it can take time. When we'll meet up should I go all in or can this be counterproductive?

 

 

Hi! As a dumpee, I'm going to tell you that unless she didn't really love you, her feelings are going to be in turmoil. There will be a big ol' mix of anger, resentment, craving, missing...you name it. Any and all of it could come out at your meeting. If you truly truly want this human back in your life, you must be willing to show that you will not do this to them again. When a breakup happens, the trust is shattered. You had best be willing to rebuild that trust. You can do it!

[cranemonkey]

Got nothing for this thread, but please keep us posted.......im chasing my own problems of reconciliation as I speak!!!! Not same situation per say, but same goal......will keep my fingers crossed for you bro.