Justadvice Posted July 10, 2017 Share Posted July 10, 2017 Thanks for taking the time to read this. Am 21 and just started seeing a 31 divorced father of 2 about a month ago. He made it pretty clear from the beginning that he likes me and all he wants is honesty and respect from me- he has trust issues from his marriage. Well I had the best time with him. He gave me every little bit of time he had when he was not at work or with his kids, he would drop everything and drive 3 hours to get me if I needed him to. A lot of dates. Told his family about me and showed me off! He did not tolerate me acting immature & the one time I blew up on him after not seeing him for a while and ended things, he made it clear he will not chase me ever! if I want to be in his life I will be and he will keep me so. Well I was walking on egg shells after that trying not to do anything stupid again until well last week. We were so good together and he had even asked me to be exclusive with him to which I did not give him an answer yet but of course I was planning on saying yes!he had just moved to a new house and I went to see the place and help him arrange some stuff. We ended up sleeping together over there then I got a call at around 10. I had made plans to visit some friends in school in a city an hour away the next day and they called. Well it was a guy and my "boyfriend" didn't like the idea of me going. but these were friends I was in college with and I made it clear there was nothing going to happen. Well next day I left and he was texting me every 15 minutes to check on me. I couldn't reply all the time as I was out playing pool and just hanging out I didn't have my phone in my hands. Found angry messages later, I texted and apologized and he told me he made plans and wanted me to go and play pool with his sister and his friend back at home. first I was drunk I couldn't drive back right away and I also told him about my plans already! I got a lecture for acting the same way he was right now the first time I broke up with him ! I got mad because this was sudden and he was acting immature. Called him, we started talking and arguing and unfortunately I did tell him to off and he hung up. Well I was too scared to even text him after that, didn't know what lecture awaited me. 4 days passed, was hoping he would cool off and maybe apologize for being an ass on his end then I would apologize my ass off. Nothing. The uncertainity was killing me. Like did we break up without even a break up text! All my previous relationships were immature pretty much I didn't know how to handle this! well I texted and said I was gonna move on and start dating. he replied that he had already moved on. That destroyed me coz I thought if I could just start contact maybe he will give me an opening to apologize or sum! Well 2 days later , I couldn't get him out of my mind, against my best judgement I decided to test the waters. Told him "I miss playing pool with you, it was more fun". He replied "More fun than what?" and " are you not having fun with your new guy" almost 5 minutes later. I thought this is positive so I said "well am comparing and you were so much fun you set the standards a bit high.". I don't have a new man by the way. he never replied its been a day now. Am literally about to just straight out say dude here is the deal. I miss you! yes or nah! but well who wants to seem needy. I wouldn't have a hard time getting over him but I keep feeling there is hope because I didn't reach out like I should after I disrespected him. Just want a green light before I go out on a limb apologizing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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