Boyfriend texted someone else while broken up.

[Reginalove]

Hey all, I need some advice because I just don't know what to do. I am only 18 and I am currently in my first relationship. I've been with my boyfriend almost 2 years. We have a really strong bond between us and I am grateful. 4 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend for reasons that are not important to this day. While broken up, he would text and call me to see how I was doing and just letting me know that he didn't want us to end. Me being stubborn ignored him some days and responded basically saying I never wanna get back with him. After 6 weeks, he came to my house to pick some stuff up and me being curious asked him if he was talking to any women, he said no and he gave me his phone and all. Days after, I find out he had been texting his coworker for a short amount of time. He said it was nothing, just a friend but I know there was some flirting going around. He claims he lied to me because if I had wanted to get back with him he would have cut all ties with that woman. I don't like being lied to so I can't seem to get over it. So we end up back together but to this day my mind goes back to the woman and I am distraught. Help!

[MissCanuck]

Well, to be fair, it is really none of your business if he was seeing anyone else while you were broken up and he was under no obligation to divulge that. That's what happens when you end it; exes eventually try to move on and date others. Sure, he could have been honest but again, you were not together and it wasn't your place to be asking about his love life.

 

In short, you need to let this one go. He is with you now and what each of you did while broken up is in the past.

[Doc Blaze]

let it go, it wasn't your business anyways

 

at the time why did you even need to know, you said you were never get back with him, what was he suppose to do be single forever?

 

to be honest you set him up for a lose lose situation

[wonderkhaleesi]

I think your best option would be to tell him how you feel about him lying, if he is apologetic and understanding then I say let the issue go and if you're both willing to resume the relationship; do so. All relationships have ups and downs, and how you deal with them reflects on how strong your relationship is. The situation could be worse, but I wouldn't see it as something worth losing a close, strong bond over.