clockorange Posted July 7, 2017 Share Posted July 7, 2017 36 year old male. My ex (a somewhat mutual break-up, and in time I'm pretty sure we both will be close friends again) was the first person I had a bf/gf relationship in 10+ years. Sure, there were FWB's between that time. And sure, I dated a little. But nothing came of any of those until I met Ex. So when I started dating her, my inexperience in having a relationship shown through immediately. I learned from those mistakes, but it was too late. Due to those mistakes, and a whole lot of forgetting how to converse with each other, we broke up a month ago. NC for a month, and we just talked for the first time last night. After a relatively restless night thinking about our conversation, I woke up in a grip of fear this morning. All of a sudden I realized how long it had been since I had been in a relationship. I'm so scared that it's going to be another 10+ years, hell, maybe even 2+ years, until I find someone else. I know I still need to heal from this relationship, and I'm okay with that. But----- Sigh. I'm getting up there in age. I'm introverted. I hate bars, and get annoyed with online dating after a month or two. All my friends are getting married, settling down, and I keep waiting for that to happen to me. It is something I want. How am I supposed to find someone again when it took me 10+ years last time? I guess I'm just looking for a little support, right now. A little "Everything will be fine" haha. The break-up hurt, sure, and is still hurting, but the underlying fear feels strangling. Link to comment
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