I want him back but don't know what to do

[Kbaby1]

I started dating this guy in Jan. Everything was great. Recently it's been a little rocky because we don't see each other as often. We both work 2 jobs and I get upset because sometimes I feel like he's not even trying to make the effort to spend time. He told me he loved me and it took me a while to say it back but I realize I really do love him. At first I questioned if he really meant it but it's not like he was pressuring me for sex at all so I believe he's genuine. We eventually had sex after 5 months. Last week I got really mad at him because I hadn't seen him in like 2 weeks and it led to a fight. I apologized after for making it a big deal. Havent talked to him since. A lot of times he says I don't take him seriously or like I don't really love him but I do and just have trouble really expressing my feelings. I love him and not ready to let this go. Should I reach out to him again? I don't wanna look weak smh

[shessofly]

He works two jobs? What is he doing when he's not with you and not at work?

[Kbaby1]

Yea we both do. So when he's free sometimes I'm not and vise versa.

[Annia]

You simply stopped talking? No break up conversation? And who cares how you look? Stop playing games. You need to talk in person about your issues and not by phone.

[Kbaby1]

You're right. Thanks

[annie24]

Last week I got really mad at him because I hadn't seen him in like 2 weeks and it led to a fight. I apologized after for making it a big deal. Havent talked to him since

 

If you want to see your bf, getting into a fight with him isn't going to make him want to spend more time with you. It gives the opposite effect. Better to have just calmly asked him what's up.

[Kbaby1]

I know! and I felt bad after that's why I apologized. 😔 I never really spazz on him and I was really mad at myself for doing it. It's usually the opposite and I always forgive him so he should do the same

[annie24]

You can reach out to him like, "hey - can we talk this weekend over a cup of coffee? I hope we can smooth things out" (or whatever ice cream, etc...)

[shessofly]

Yea we both do. So when he's free sometimes I'm not and vise versa.

 

What is he doing when he's off and you're off but he's not with you?